Dear So and So

[Veronica]

I have coats for every 2 degree temperature change. :p

That's a nice looking coat! I'm glad you got something so nice for yourself and it will last for several seasons.

Veronica

[Owlie]

Didn't really want to start a thread on this so I'm putting it here. My wonderful father passed away at the age of 93 on Friday night. He lived in Tucson - 4 hours away and I was planning on travelling down on Saturday morning to see him, but he passed on Friday night.

I am very sad, but very glad that he only had about one week of not really being well enough to get up out of bed and communicate very well. He passed in his sleep and he is blessed that he did not have to suffer very long.

He was a loving and caring Dad and when I was a kid, he was always the one who supported me in all my sporting endeavors. I will miss you, Dad.

My condolences, spokewench.

[azfiddle]

Spokewrench,

So sorry to hear of your loss. Cherish your memories and do not let them slip away. It sound you had a wonderful relationship and he will be missed.

Sharon

[emily_in_nc]

My sympathies, Spokewrench. I know you will miss your dad immensely, but you are very fortunate that you had him for so long. I lost my dad at age 71, and I fully expected him to be around for another 10, if not 20, years. What I would have given for a few more years of him...you were very blessed. And he went the best way possible. Still, it's never easy to say goodbye. :(

[channlluv]

(((Spokewrench)))

As sad as it is to lose a loved one, it sounds like you and he had a great relationship and that he had a long and happy life.

Lots of that going on around here, the long and happy life part. Well done.

Roxy

[PamNY]

Spokewench, I am sorry for your loss. As others have said, it sounds like a life well lived.

[snapdragen]

I'm so sorry for your loss Spokewrench.

[maillotpois]

I'm so sorry for your loss Spokewrench.

Me too - big hug to you.

[salsabike]

Spokewrench, he sounds like a wonderful guy. I'm glad you had him.

[Fredwina]

Dear Brother:
First, you had to get your disablity check, Then you had to get a money order, Then you had to buy a stamp. Now, you can't get to the post office because you wrecked your car. So Mother is sitting around with no money. Boo-hoo. Thankfully, she doesn't need much now, as everything is paid for at the community.
And I know you're mad because I didn't let you have her car.(see car wreck). And i took away your Sunday meals (Yes, I know about you looking under her bed for the food she stashed from you while she was in the restroom). And I could give her some mone, but I'm still paying The relo my new employer gave me. And the Community fee for mom? Well, guess whos paying that? and her beauty fees.
Sincerely,
You soon to ex-sister

[NbyNW]

Spokewrench, so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful relationship.

[marni]

Didn't really want to start a thread on this so I'm putting it here. My wonderful father passed away at the age of 93 on Friday night. He lived in Tucson - 4 hours away and I was planning on travelling down on Saturday morning to see him, but he passed on Friday night.

I am very sad, but very glad that he only had about one week of not really being well enough to get up out of bed and communicate very well. He passed in his sleep and he is blessed that he did not have to suffer very long.

He was a loving and caring Dad and when I was a kid, he was always the one who supported me in all my sporting endeavors. I will miss you, Dad.

Spikewrench,

I am so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself and try to focus on the positive memories. While death is never looked for, but at least he went quickly which is a positive thing in its own way.

marni

[alexis_the_tiny]

((((spokewrench))))

[Pax]

Dear weather gods,

It's been gorgeous and unseasonably warm this whole winter. Now that I'm supposed to pick up my new bike on Thursday, the forecast is for 23F and snow... NOT FUNNY! :mad:

Signed,

Give me a break

[Sky King]

Dear weather gods,

It's been gorgeous and unseasonably warm this whole winter. Now that I'm supposed to pick up my new bike on Thursday, the forecast is for 23F and snow... NOT FUNNY! :mad:

Signed,

Give me a break

And there is the answer to our severe lack of snow!!! We just all need to order new bikes hee, hee, hee

[Sky King]

Spikewrench,

I am so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself and try to focus on the positive memories. While death is never looked for, but at least he went quickly which is a positive thing in its own way.

marni

So true, meanwhile I promise to laugh, smile and raise a toast in his honor! Off to Yakima this weekend with the GF's to attend services for one of our Moms. We made a pact many years ago to be there for each other as we experience the loss of our parents. Was a god send for me when I lost my mom, hope you to have a good support crew.

[spokewench]

Thanks Sky King. I do have a good support crew of wonderful friends where I live and a GREAT SISTER in Tucson near my Mom.

[bmccasland]

Dear Self,
The dental hygenist was not trying to kill you, really. Dental impressions won't kill you either. Having a panic attack really wasn't necessary. We can skip that next time.

[OakLeaf]

Dear Beth,

Dental phobias are real and nothing to be ashamed of. Find a dentist who understands and who will do your procedures under sedation if necessary.

[jessmarimba]

Dear self:

If you can't do anything else tomorrow, at least go for a walk. A good walk. It seems counterintuitive but it'll probably help your back.

[Owlie]

Dear self:
Stop worrying about that. You have other things to deal with. Go home, perhaps next weekend, and look when you get there.
Also, one day you're going to have to consider getting the rest of your stuff out of your parents' house.

Dear body:
Let me sleep. I get it. No more evening caffeine. Today was weird. Tomorrow will be better.

[Chinook]

Dear You,
You have chosen to post amongst others who have lost their loved ones and to the beginners in this sport; you know what you have not been subjected to. And you find it so difficult to rise above yourself, your perceptions, and your reality. You have so much. Rise above and be. Respect and be. Understand and be. Become who you are to BE. No more excuses. Make 2012 and the the years that follow your star trail...you are to BE! Let nothing stop you.

[limewave]

Dear Chinook,
You can do it! You have an entire community hear rooting for you!
~Limewave

[Pax]

Just got off the phone with my mom, my brother has been having difficulty seeing out of his left eye for a few weeks, the doc did an MRI and then a CT scan. Seems he has a 5cm Optic Nerve Meningioma (http://www.neurosurgerydallas.com/2_1_4_5.php). Apparently it's been growing so long it has deformed the bones in his sinuses. He is very weirded out but doing okay; hardest part so far... calling his daughter and letting her know whats going on.

He and I have a complicated relationship, but this is really knocking me for a loop. The idea he could lose his sight terrifies me.

[indysteel]

((((Pax)))). I'm so sorry to hear this. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep us posted if you can.

[OakLeaf]

Wow (((((((Pax))))))). Thinking of your brother and you.

[Biciclista]

gee, Pax, that sounds like that must be hurting!! my sinuses are hypersensitive!

Dear TE friends
If I told you I was considering joining an expedition that would take me to Mongolia, what would you say? Well, I'll tell you what my husband said: GO FOR IT.
I need help writing a couple essays; is there someone here that is good at that and would like to help me?
It's Steppe Ecology & Civic Media, with a focus on the Przewalski 's horse and the Pallas's cat. And i get to sleep in a yurt!

[SheFly]

I'm with DH and say GO FOR IT! Sounds like an awesome experience, and you need some you time after all you and RD have been through.

While the content is not my area of expertise, I am happy to edit (it's part of what I do for a living).

SheFly

[Biciclista]

Thanks SheFly,
the content isn't the issue; it's these kinds of questions:

How have you translated professional opportunities, classes, or
life experiences into your work?

How do you think this experience will benefit your personal life, professional life and your community?

[bmccasland]

Thanks SheFly,
the content isn't the issue; it's these kinds of questions:

How have you translated professional opportunities, classes, or
life experiences into your work?

How do you think this experience will benefit your personal life, professional life and your community?

Not that it'll help - but the fact that you need a vacation, and have your mind ponder other things other than balancing a ill hubby, hospitals, doctors, and keep your own home in some semblance of order?

Back on your task - is there a link to information about the trip (goals) that could give us a hint on how to help you? Is this some grand social experiment? What makes delving into this area different that say, visiting villagers in Africa, Central or South America, or First Nations people in northern Canada/Alaska? Other than to us, Mongolia is about as far removed from anything.

Ecology and Civic media are two completely different subjects IMHO. I can grasp Ecology of the area and livestock management, as well as throwing in a predator. But Civic media??? :confused:

[Biciclista]

http://www.earthexpeditions.org/field_expeditions/mongolia/index.php

Civic media as in we have to communicate with people to effect change.
It's in June. It's not a vacation, it's an adventure. Next week we are going to hawaii. THAT is a vacation.

ps will be sleeping in a GER, not a YURT.



Not that it'll help - but the fact that you need a vacation, and have your mind ponder other things other than balancing a ill hubby, hospitals, doctors, and keep your own home in some semblance of order?

Back on your task - is there a link to information about the trip (goals) that could give us a hint on how to help you? Is this some grand social experiment? What makes delving into this area different that say, visiting villagers in Africa, Central or South America, or First Nations people in northern Canada/Alaska? Other than to us, Mongolia is about as far removed from anything.

Ecology and Civic media are two completely different subjects IMHO. I can grasp Ecology of the area and livestock management, as well as throwing in a predator. But Civic media??? :confused:

[NbyNW]

Dear Mimi,
I know nothing about Mongolia, steppe ecology or civic media, or the horse or the cat. So while I can't be very helpful, I can be supportive: GO FOR IT!

[jobob]

Next week we are going to hawaii. THAT is a vacation.

Sweeeeeet !!

And I echo everyone else's sentiments, go for it!

[Owlie]

Go for it!

Dear self:
NEVER leave another paper for this class this late again. If you insist, consider doing it on Tuesday night or Wednesday during the day. Classes from 10 to 7:45 on four hours of sleep will be fun...

[azfiddle]

Mimi- sounds like a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. I would be happy to read and edit your essay if you want to email it to me- not quite so sure about suggestions to get started. I'm sure you have plenty of cycling adventures under challenging conditions that you can draw on to discuss- they must somehow impact your attitude, ability to problem-solve, patience etc in your work. Plus there is your artistic side.

Pax- hugs for the tough news on your brother. Is the condition treatable, or is it an inevitable progression to blindness.

[Biciclista]

thanks AZ, never thought of that angle!!

[Pax]

Pax- hugs for the tough news on your brother. Is the condition treatable, or is it an inevitable progression to blindness.

It's got about a 97% chance of blindness with surgery, and with the size of his tumor it will be 100% without the surgery. I so desperately hope that can save the sight in his other eye.


Mimi - sounds like a grand adventure!

[Owlie]

It's got about a 97% chance of blindness with surgery, and with the size of his tumor it will be 100% without the surgery. I so desperately hope that can save the sight in his other eye.


Mimi - sounds like a grand adventure!

((Pax))

[NbyNW]

(((Pax))) Sounds complicated. I hope the chips fall in your brother's favor.

[Pax]

Thanks gals, it's a bit of an emotional roller coaster here these days.

[jessmarimba]

Pax, good luck to your brother. Vision loss is scary :(


Dear immune system:
Anytime you wanna start working, go right ahead. Three colds in three months is three too many. I don't have enough sick days at work to keep this up!

[Biciclista]

Dear Nose
Stop running
thanks

[ivorygorgon]

Mimi: I and some friends put together a 4 person team for the Furnace Creek 508 this year. Our animal totem is the Przewalski 's horse.

I just thought that was a neat coincidence.

[Biciclista]

Mimi: I and some friends put together a 4 person team for the Furnace Creek 508 this year. Our animal totem is the Przewalski 's horse.

I just thought that was a neat coincidence.

that IS a neat coincidence. Glad someone is using this creature as their totem.

[OakLeaf]

A friend of mine posted on FB earlier today that she'd done the quiz on the World Wildlife Fund (http://www.worldwildlife.org/sites/inner-animal/index.html) and identified Przewalski's horse as her inner animal. :)

They have a herd of Przewalski's horses at The Wilds (http://thewilds.org/), a wildlife preserve near me. We got to see them this summer.



I think that means "go for it, and good luck!"

[ladyicon]

Has anyone taken the test and not been a Przewalski's horse? This was also my inner animal. Humm coincidence???

[alexis_the_tiny]

Dear Beth,

Next time, ask the dentist for a sedative. My wonderful dentist gives me something that lists retrograde amnesia as a side effect. Maybe not very healthy, but provides really good (a.k.a completely forgotten) dental experiences.

Dear Mimi,

Go for it!! If you need a proofreader, I'll be happy to help. :)

[Selkie]

Has anyone taken the test and not been a Przewalski's horse? This was also my inner animal. Humm coincidence???

I'm a clouded leopard! ;)

[Catrin]

Has anyone taken the test and not been a Przewalski's horse? This was also my inner animal. Humm coincidence???

I am a Cheetah :cool:

[Blueberry]

I'm a Proboscis Monkey. Or a sea otter. Only child thing, I think.

[Veronica]

I'm a warthog. :D

Quite remarkable in appearance, you are one tough cookie. You are a survivor and have developed some very sophisticated coping mechanisms. You enjoy the company of your family and love spending time in hot dry climates.

An amazingly accurate description.

Veronica

[Biciclista]

I'm a TIGER! WOOHOOO

[Veronica]

I would have liked to be a cat, but I think I have too many siblings.

Veronica

[Crankin]

Not sure what you guys are talking about. Did I miss something?

[OakLeaf]

I am a Moose! :D

[Veronica]

Not sure what you guys are talking about. Did I miss something?

It's a quiz - from post 5049.

Veronica

[malkin]

Another Proboscus Monkey!

[redrhodie]

Mandrill's are pretty cute. :)

[SadieKate]

African Wild Dog.

And Bubba is a bison, so apropos.

[bmccasland]

a Lynx!

"Your unique soft features and big heart make you a striking figure, but you prefer a more solitary lifestyle and reclusive mountain getaways. You tend to move quickly and stealthily and usually get what you want." :rolleyes:

[jessmarimba]

I'm a red panda!

"Mountain getaways during cold weather are a favorite pastime."

[NbyNW]

I'm an orangutan!

"You are a rare breed, much admired by everyone. Your unique sense of color and appearance make you a lot of fun. You are loyal to your family and are happiest surrounded by trees, in tropical forests close to water."

[Owlie]

I'm a Darwin's Fox!

[Pax]

LOL, I'm a Chimpanzee.

[emily_in_nc]

I'm a clouded leopard! ;)

Me too!

[Biciclista]

not too many przewalski horses here now??!

[malkin]

Brewer is a Harbor Seal.
Even went back and changed a couple things and he's still a harbor seal.

I am always happy to see the seals when I am on the water, so that's a hit.

[VeganBikeChick]

I'm apparently a cougar :rolleyes:

[malkin]

I'm apparently a cougar :rolleyes:

lol!
I'm sure they mean it in the nicest possible way!

[jobob]

Warthog.

Good grief. :o

[emily_in_nc]

Warthog.

Good grief. :o

This made me LOL! They really have a lot of interesting possibilities, don't they? :D I posted the quiz to Facebook, and three friends who have taken it so far are a cougar (she got a laugh out of that), a chimpanzee, and a mandrill! :cool:

[marni]

fringed lizard here- maybe because I like fall, the desert and have four siblings? interesting and different.

marni

[snapdragen]

Giant Anteater. :eek:

[azfiddle]

Black-footed Ferret...

[alexis_the_tiny]

I'm a cloud-ed leopard!!

Pretty funny, considering that I still have nightmares of a Kindergarten spelling test 20 years ago, when I couldn't, for the life of me, figure out how to spell 'Leopard'.

[Fredwina]

my Inner Animal is a
Douc Langour Monkey. ok

[solobiker]

I'm a cougar....I better warn my husband.:p

[alexis_the_tiny]

Dear self, good job scaring yourself out of a night's worth of sleep by INSISTING on looking at the stupid photo everyone commented on as "creepy" and "scary" to see what was the thing you were missing out on seeing. Good job. Good job. Now, let's see how you'll stay awake for a whole day training course in reading instruction tomorrow...Stupid Facebook photo puzzle things...

[Trek420]

I'm a whale shark.

[channlluv]

I'm with Pax: Chimpanzee

"Soft and cuddly in nature, you have a big heart and love to hang around with lots of friends. You are very clever and good at problem solving and working with others. A very rare breed, you are one in a million."

I'd like to think all that were true.

Roxy

[jobob]

I'm a warthog. :D

Quite remarkable in appearance, you are one tough cookie. You are a survivor and have developed some very sophisticated coping mechanisms. You enjoy the company of your family and love spending time in hot dry climates.

An amazingly accurate description.

Veronica

Hmm. I got warthog too, but I'm not much of a fan of hot & dry. I must not have been paying close attention when I did the quiz. Yeah, that's it. :rolleyes:

[maillotpois]

African Wild Dog.




I got this as well.

:p

[SadieKate]

Why am I not surprised? :D

[snapdragen]

I want a do over.

[SadieKate]

But anteaters are unique and VERY special. . .

[salsabike]

I'm a Mekong Dolphin and I like it! :)

[Owlie]

Dear self:
Following the last third of a bag of sour Skittles with the second half of the container of pineapple was not the best idea you've ever had...

[HillSlugger]

I'm a cloud-ed leopard!!

Pretty funny, considering that I still have nightmares of a Kindergarten spelling test 20 years ago, when I couldn't, for the life of me, figure out how to spell 'Leopard'.

Me too. I don't understand this because I said my perfect place is near the water.

[spokewench]

Me too!

Clouded Leopard here

[jobob]

Ah, I took it again, and it came up Honey Badger!

;) :D

[Blueberry]

Ah, I took it again, and it came up Honey Badger!

;) :D

Sweet:D:D:D

[limewave]

I had to go back a few pages to figure out all the animal talk. But I'm a
Proboscis Monkey. Although, I don't really like to sleep in or go out late at night to party. I'm a dinner party kind of girl. And then I want to be home in my pajamas by 9, reading a book.

[Sky King]

Cougar, interesting as I see myself as more social than that :)

[emily_in_nc]

Me too. I don't understand this because I said my perfect place is near the water.

Ditto -- water and clouded leopard? I wondered about that too.

[salsabike]

http://www.zoovilleusa.com/cloudeds.htm

Leopards are big swimmers.

[OakLeaf]

Ah, I took it again, and it came up Honey Badger!

;) :D

A real Honey Badger wouldn't care. :p

[jobob]

A real Honey Badger wouldn't care. :p


Touché. I'm a work in progress. :cool:

[alexis_the_tiny]

Dear favorite fur-god-child,

we're all going to miss you terribly. Blueberries are back in the shops and I remember how much you loved them. I hope you have an endless supply of blueberries and apples, not to mention cats and rats to chase around where you are now. Miss you awfully,

Godma.

[OakLeaf]

(((((((alexis & furchild)))))))

[emily_in_nc]

http://www.zoovilleusa.com/cloudeds.htm

Leopards are big swimmers.

Ah, I was not aware. Never gave leopards too much thought until now! :cool:

Thanks, SB!

[limewave]

Dear Acquaintance,

I don't think it is too much to ask for 2 complimentary entries into the 1-mile fun run in exchange for your design needs you have requested. It will easily take me 2-3 hours to complete your task (or longer), which, at my normal rate would be cost much more than the entry to your race.

So, no, I'm not going to help you out. I have too much work to do. Need to pay the bills then play with my kids. Let someone else waste their evening on your project.

~Limewave

[Veronica]

Dear Acquaintance,

I don't think it is too much to ask for 2 complimentary entries into the 1-mile fun run in exchange for your design needs you have requested. It will easily take me 2-3 hours to complete your task (or longer), which, at my normal rate would be cost much more than the entry to your race.

So, no, I'm not going to help you out. I have too much work to do. Need to pay the bills then play with my kids. Let someone else waste their evening on your project.

~Limewave


Good for you! It's hard to say no sometimes. If you're doing volunteer work for event, you should get into the event for free.

Veronica

[Veronica]

Dear Parent,

Do you really think it's a good idea to let you 11 year old son decide if he should take medicine for his ADD or not? We've been struggling with this for a year and a half now. And yes, he has had some good periods, but then he falls right back into his old ways. I can only imagine how much effort he has to put in stay focused. It must be exhausting for him.

I honestly don't know what else you think I, or your son, can do about this situation. You refuse to insist he medicate; you refuse to look at his diet. What do you think can be done?

I am going to sit at this meeting with you and you are going to cry, just as you have at the last four meetings, because you want him to do better. But you don't really want to do what you need to do.

Veronica

[Blueberry]

Dear Limewave:

Nice job setting up boundaries - I should take some lessons.

Dear Veronica:

Thank you for caring - even when the parents don't.

[Veronica]

Dear Tucker,

You are the most adorable snuggle baby and I love having you in my lap. I would be happy to sit here all day with you rumbling away. Unfortunately, I do have to go to work. Please stop giving me "the look" that makes me regret that I have to move.

Your loving mom

[maillotpois]

Dear Veronica:

Thank you for caring - even when the parents don't.

Blueberry -

I love you, but I think this is a little harsh. I suspect the truth is not that the parents "don't care", but more that the parents are out of their league in dealing with this problem. Parenting can be monumentally tough and the decisions are never easy. Enforcement of rules can be heartbreaking, even if it is the right thing to do.

Moreover, Veronica probably has more experience dealing with children over her years as a teacher than many of these parents. But she doesn't have to go home with the kids. That puts her in a unique situation to observe the parents. She surely knows the right thing to do from her experience; however, it is ultimately the parents' job to make those choices. And often things are not completely black and white.

[Blueberry]

MP -

That's probably fair.

I'm not a parent, nor do intend to be one. I was just reading off of the "you don't really want to do what you need to do." I know enough to understand that these issues are not black and white, and quite often no one really agrees as to what is best. I'm sure it's frustrating for parents. I don't envy what it takes to be a good parent - I'm not willing to put in that kind of commitment (hence - no kids).

I just get really upset by the situations where the teachers seem to be the only ones who care and are working with the kids, and the parents expect the teachers to do it all without their having to lift a hand.

[Veronica]

Yeah, there is a lot more to the story - non English speaking parent, little insurance coverage, the boy is brilliant, but definitely coddled. It's their culture. He loves to read. I keep hoping he'll mature enough that he can cope, because he has so much potential.

Just drives me crazy that mom keeps asking for meetings to help him and I don't have anymore answers. And her crying makes me very sad. She loves him and wants him to succeed.

Yeah, I'd much rather be a teacher than a parent.

Veronica

[Pax]

Dear Honey,

I'm so so sorry that I don't want a dog as much as you do. I'm okay with you getting one but since I'm not thrilled about it... you're going to pass on getting the puppy. I really tried to manufacture the enthusiasm, I'm sorry I wasn't able to.

I love you so much and all I want is for you to be happy. This sucks. :(

Me

[Crankin]

Veronica, here you could file a neglect petition with DCF if a child was not being given his/her medication.
Does the mother have a reason for not medicating him? Often times, parents, especially those with cultural, educational, or other handicaps really don't understand anything about ADHD. Of course she is probably mourning the loss of her "ideal" child, but if she understands that ADHD is an illness and not a deficit, she might be able to see how medication can help him achieve his potential.
I have seen this issue from the point of view of a parent, teacher, and therapist. It always surprised me when parents refused to consider medication. It doesn't mean you are a failure or your kid is a loser. And, you still need to use all of the other organizational strategies to help the child. Both of my kids were similar to this kid. Brilliant, but with the short term memory of a gnat and one was extremely disorganized, the other impulsive. One took medication for 7 years, and then through sheer will and determination made it through HS as an honors student with no meds. The other one tried meds in HS and they made him agitated, so he stopped. He would have achieved much more at that point in his life, if he hadn't had the side effects; now there are a lot more choices.
I don't think anyone, parent or not, can really know how it feels to have ADHD. It's really limiting, causes a lot of marital distress and firings from work. About 30% of the incarcerated population in the US has it. People think it's over diagnosed, but it's more that years ago, not everyone made it to high school, and there were more options/careers for people who didn't succeed. academically. Life was different.
Don't be so quick to judge. Of course a child's treatment is always in the hands of the parent, but sometimes, a parent really does not have the right information to make the right decision.

[Biciclista]

I am really glad that my sons got through school before this era, when we could be threatened for bad parenting for not wanting to medicate them. My DH has ADHD so he DOES know what it's like to have it. However, both of our sons got through school without medication (only one was diagnosed before high school), both got their bachelor's and one is currently working on his PhD. I don't think drugs are the only answer. I'm not even implying that what we did was the best thing. but just because we don't want to medicate our kids doesn't mean we're bad parents.

[Veronica]

I think a big difference is the support you and your DH could give your sons. This mom really can't give her son support academically.

He is actually doing okay as a student. His math grades aren't as good as they use to be because math has gotten harder, more steps, more to remember... and he wants to read during the math lesson. :D

It's his distracting others that is my biggest concern and blurting out inappropriate comments. He's wonderfully, caring boy and a really neat kid - great sense of humor.

Anyway... thanks for listening. I appreciate the persepctive of parents who have been there.

Veronica

[jessmarimba]

Dear coworker:

I really wish you wouldn't wear headphones when you eat lunch, because the sounds you're making are making me want to vomit. STOP BEING SO GROSS!! CHEW WITH YOUR MOUTH CLOSED!!

Sincerely,
not your mother

[Owlie]

Dear self: Just write another page and a half. He doesn't actually care and just wants to see that you've written something. (I realize the topic you're supposed to be writing about is BS, but surely you can come up with some BS about the BS?)

Dear apartment:
Why have you swallowed my stamps? I need those to pay my electricity bill.

Dear car:
I love you and you're ever so helpful, what with my late classes and all that, but you are getting to be expensive. First the catalytic converter, then another car insurance payment, then the fact that gas is absurdly expensive here because it's the middle of nowhere (even though it's next to a mid-size city). Maybe I should buy another bike and let you have three days a week off...

[Bethany1]

Dear Self,

It really is okay to sell your bike.. You know it needs a better home and to have someone love it more than you can.

[katluvr]

Dear Self,
What is wrong with you? Where is your motivation? A 1/2 marathon in less than 4 weeks and you have fallen off your TP. You have gained 7 pounds since Pike Peak. You don't exercise before work or after work! You are pushing 50 (ok only 48 now) and must find a way to keep moving. Why AM I still on the couch on my day off w/ laptop on my lap--go visit the TM in the garage that you just bought!

K

[katluvr]

And back to the inner animal test, I'm a sea lion. Cool!

K

[Becky]

Dear universe-

All I wanted was one day off to go play. Why did my project's legal issues have to rear their ugly heads for tomorrow of all days? I've been busting my tail for this case for weeks now, on top of a lot of stuff that falls under "other duties as assigned". I need a break. *cries*

Me

[maillotpois]

Dear Ski Doppelganger (http://abcnews.go.com/Sports/wireStory/canadian-freestyle-skier-sarah-burke-dead-29-15396824#.TxiRrIE8CSo):

I'm just heartbroken that your injuries were so severe that you died today. You were really a beautiful life force, and by all accounts a generous and giving person as well. You were too young.

Love, Your non-X games gold medallist, non model name double.

[VeganBikeChick]

I was so sorry to read that today. I'm glad she was living her life and doing what she loved.

[OakLeaf]

Oh man ... Carla Swart, too (http://www.dailypeloton.com/displayarticle.asp?pk=18063). :( :(




keep those bike computers secured gals ... :(

[bmccasland]

Dear Weather Beings,

Are you having fun with us? :confused: Snow, freezing rain, now more snow. I would be having fun if my nordic skis weren't delaminated. Staying stuck inside is losing it's charm.

[SadieKate]

Dear MP - I forgot your doppelganger was injured and kind of freaked when I saw the headlines. I'm glad it wasn't you.

~SK

PS - I used the word "doppelganger" just today myself . . . :p

[SadieKate]

Dear Weather Beings,

Are you having fun with us? :confused: Snow, freezing rain, now more snow. I would be having fun if my nordic skis weren't delaminated. Staying stuck inside is losing it's charm.Same here in Bendemonium. Mt Bachelor just set a record with 35" of snow in 24 hours which is way cool, but I could do without the rain down below. We're a slushy, yucky mess.:mad:

The Weather Beings are having payback for the incrediblely warm and dry winter we've had so far. Battendown the hatches!

[Biciclista]

to whom it may concern
thanks for letting the boothbys escape snowmageddon. It really is warmer in hawaii even in January.

[indysteel]

to whom it may concern
thanks for letting the boothbys escape snowmageddon. It really is warmer in hawaii even in January.

Jealous! I hope you're having fun!

[Sky King]

Dear Ski Doppelganger (http://abcnews.go.com/Sports/wireStory/canadian-freestyle-skier-sarah-burke-dead-29-15396824#.TxiRrIE8CSo):

I'm just heartbroken that your injuries were so severe that you died today. You were really a beautiful life force, and by all accounts a generous and giving person as well. You were too young.

Love, Your non-X games gold medallist, non model name double.

It is very, very sad, Sarah coached my DD at a few camps. Their type of skiing Scares me to death but I also believe in people following their passion. Thanks Sarah for promoting strong women!

[Sky King]

Same here in Bendemonium. Mt Bachelor just set a record with 35" of snow in 24 hours which is way cool, but I could do without the rain down below. We're a slushy, yucky mess.:mad:

The Weather Beings are having payback for the incrediblely warm and dry winter we've had so far. Battendown the hatches!

Boise as well, all the snow in town has now rained away and the slush it mostly gone. Glad our ski hill finally opened - latest opening on record

[limewave]

Dear Organic Natural Peanut Butter,

You are so nutty and yummy. Whether straight from the jar, garnished with raisins or chocolate chips, or even swirled into a serving of greek yogurt--you are my happy place every afternoon. The other day I licked your jar clean and was forced to use DH's JIF :eek: It looked so gray and its texture so, so . . . unappetizing. I hope to never have to do that again.

Your unabashed admirer,
Limewave

[Owlie]

Heh, limewave. I hate "natural" peanut butter. For some reason, I can't eat it without itchy lips...but I can eat Jif and roasted peanuts with no problem.:confused:

Dear snow and ice:
Go away. I have things I need to do tomorrow. I need to go to the mall (shudder) to make a return and pick up a gift (and something for me, perhaps) and get my glasses adjusted. Possibly a haircut.

Dear city (ies):
In case the snow and ice doesn't comply with the above request, could you see fit to actually clear the roads so that I can run my errands as planned? Grr.

Is it spring yet?

[Catrin]

Dear Organic Natural Peanut Butter,

You are so nutty and yummy. Whether straight from the jar, garnished with raisins or chocolate chips, or even swirled into a serving of greek yogurt--you are my happy place every afternoon. The other day I licked your jar clean and was forced to use DH's JIF :eek: It looked so gray and its texture so, so . . . unappetizing. I hope to never have to do that again.

Your unabashed admirer,
Limewave

We should start our own fan club...or seek addiction help, unsure which :o :D

hmmmm, hadn't thought about swirling into into Greek yogurt, I also swirl it into steel-cut oats.

[emily_in_nc]

We should start our own fan club...or seek addiction help, unsure which :o :D

hmmmm, hadn't thought about swirling into into Greek yogurt, I also swirl it into steel-cut oats.

I was starving yesterday in the afternoon and had two nice spoonfuls right out of the jar. Seriously yummy, and held me til dinner. Love me some natural (and locally made in Belize!) peanut butter. :D

[Selkie]

Dear coworker:

I really wish you wouldn't wear headphones when you eat lunch, because the sounds you're making are making me want to vomit. STOP BEING SO GROSS!! CHEW WITH YOUR MOUTH CLOSED!!

Sincerely,
not your mother

:eek: LOL. Unfortunately, it probably wouldn't matter if the audible chewer/slurper took off the headphones! I can't abide by rude eaters, either. They always seem to choose crunchy foods, don't they?

[OakLeaf]

Be open to the possibility that the person just has very bad teeth and a dental phobia ... I've just had to get used to my DH's mouth noises ...

[indysteel]

Dear City of Indianapolis: I cannot wait until the Superbowl is yesterday's news. Believe it it not, there are people out there who don't give a rat's you know what about this ridiculously bloated extravaganza and who just want it to be over.

[Crankin]

Same with the playoffs.
A friend called me yesterday to invite us over to "watch the game." I almost said, "What game?" but I sort of remembered, and said, "oh, we'll be out x country skiing."
Also time to hit some good restaurants tomorrow night.

[Selkie]

But isn't Madonna going to be the half-time entertainment? ;-)

I'm with you, by the way. And Crankin has the right idea on how best to spend a winter afternoon!

[bmccasland]

I'd rather the Superbowl than the on-going political primary nonsense. At least the Superbowl has good commercials. :cool:

[snapdragen]

Dear Dad,

It's been one year since you died. We're doing OK, you made sure Mom would be alright. I'm taking care of her, like I promised I would. I miss you.

[jessmarimba]

Be open to the possibility that the person just has very bad teeth and a dental phobia ... I've just had to get used to my DH's mouth noises ...

That wouldn't excuse the burping, etc. He's just gross. One of the problems with a small office is that the guys think they don't need manners anymore, since I'm the only person they offend.

[Owlie]

Dear Dad,

It's been one year since you died. We're doing OK, you made sure Mom would be alright. I'm taking care of her, like I promised I would. I miss you.

(((Snap)))

Beth, I totally agree with you.

[indysteel]

Oh, I'm sick of the primaries, too. The Superbowl never bothered me until now. It's a totally different experience if you live in or near a host city. We have heard nothing but the Superbowl for well over a year and all if downtown has been under construction or repair.

((((Snap)))). Hugs to you and your mom.

[Owlie]

Oh, I'm sick of the primaries, too. The Superbowl never bothered me until now. It's a totally different experience if you live in or near a host city. We have heard nothing but the Superbowl for well over a year and all if downtown has been under construction or repair.

((((Snap)))). Hugs to you and your mom.

True. My hometown keeps talking about hosting something. That is laughable, since it barely has traffic under control. That, and that whole "Let's cut off the riverfront with a highway!" thing. (Of course, since the riverfront has effectively been cut off in one way or another since the 1930s...)

[spokewench]

(((Snap))) - Sounds like you are doing well, but you will always miss your Dad. Thinking of you and your Mom.

[SadieKate]

Dear Dad,

It's been one year since you died. We're doing OK, you made sure Mom would be alright. I'm taking care of her, like I promised I would. I miss you.

TE not only needs a "Like" button, it needs a "Hug" button.

[emily_in_nc]

TE not only needs a "Like" button, it needs a "Hug" button.

"Like" :)

[Owlie]

Dear Dr. S--
Your slides...they make no sense to me. It didn't help that Dr. L has no clue how to use a computer and therefore they didn't get put online, but seriously? There doesn't appear to be any logical organization.

[maillotpois]

Second (or third or fifth - I have lost track) the hug to Snap.

[OakLeaf]

(((((snap)))))

[alexis_the_tiny]

(((Snap)))

Dear Uncle, that remark? Totally uncalled for. Thanks for helping me remember the one very compelling reason why I avoid family gatherings where you're present like the plague. :mad:

[spokewench]

(((Snap)))

Dear Uncle, that remark? Totally uncalled for. Thanks for helping me remember the one very compelling reason why I avoid family gatherings where you're present like the plague. :mad:

Sometimes the best thing is not to say anything in family situations, BUT, have you ever called your Uncle on his inappropriate remarks?

[Becky]

(((Alexis)))

When I'm in those situations (all too often with my family, it seems), I remember Marni's advice (on another thread here). She suggested asking the offender, "Now why would you say something like that?", and I think that it really does work without starting a major row.

[alexis_the_tiny]

Well, I've gone with the being quiet part. My mom will get all over me for being disrespectful to my uncle. I've been ignoring him for years at the yearly family gathering but it seems like the more I ignore him, the snarkier his remarks get. I think next year, I'll just go on vacation.

[spokewench]

Well, I've gone with the being quiet part. My mom will get all over me for being disrespectful to my uncle. I've been ignoring him for years at the yearly family gathering but it seems like the more I ignore him, the snarkier his remarks get. I think next year, I'll just go on vacation.

Do you really think your Mom will get all over you if you tell her, I will not attend functions with him if he continues his behavior so you either let me stand up for myself or I don't come to family functions. I don't think cutting off family contact on big occasions is probably the best thing; unless your family life is not great? I sound like your mother now, huh! :) Are you young Alexis, because at some time in our lives, we all build different relationships with our parents and family and become grown up (this happens at different times in our lives); maybe this is one of those times?

[indysteel]

Do you really think your Mom will get all over you if you tell her, I will not attend functions with him if he continues his behavior so you either let me stand up for myself or I don't come to family functions. I don't think cutting off family contact on big occasions is probably the best thing; unless your family life is not great? I sound like your mother now, huh! :) Are you young Alexis, because at some time in our lives, we all build different relationships with our parents and family and become grown up (this happens at different times in our lives); maybe this is one of those times?

Yes to this. You are an adult and, regardless of what your mother may think or say, you are entitled to draw whatever boundaries you need to draw to protect yourself. There are better and worse ways of communicating those boundaries and of dealing with whatever pushback you may get, but the right to draw the boundary in the first place is fundamentally yours. IMO, the sooner you learn to assert yourself, the happier and more functional your life will be.

I recommend books of the self-help variety somewhat sparingly, but one that I think is very good for just about every woman to read is the Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner. It will help you learn to calmly and consisently assert yourself with people who want to manipulate or control you.

[Owlie]

Dear Drs. S and E:
Your class is a 1-credit hour, pass/fail class. It should not require this much work. Gah.

[Biciclista]

Dear TE friends
having a great time in Hawaii with DH. I took time this morning to buy him an IBex woolie for when we get home (via telephone). We're getting a little tanned and also rested. It's been beautiful every day.
And Seattle's weather nasty as ever, waits for our return.
Why are macadamia nuts SO expensive.
Love
Mimi

[salsabike]

Mimi, I love all the Hawaii stuff. You guys look wonderful.

[NbyNW]

I second what Salsabike said. If anyone has earned a little time in paradise, it's the two of you! Enjoy the rest of your vacation!

[OakLeaf]

Yay! Mimi, so glad you two are getting some vacation time.


(And yeah ... the Woolies, 50% off and I'm completely stocked up on wool. :rolleyes:)

[Pax]

Hawaii sounds wonderful, Mimi!! Glad you're having a great time!!

[bmccasland]

Mimi and RD - have fun in Hawaii! Enjoy your vacation, get nice and tan - or at least some color other than pasty white. :cool:

And gee thanks, I really didn't need to hear that Ibex stuff is on sale....:rolleyes:

[Crankin]

Enjoy your vacation, Mimi and Don!
Apparently winter has gone to Seattle, instead of here.

[Owlie]

Have fun!

Dear dryer:
When I ask you to dry my clothes, I expect you to dry them. "Dry" has never included "leave as pile of damp cloth for unsuspecting owner" in its definition. I feel like I'm in this sketch:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sv5iEK-IEzw
"And this one is wet, and this one is wet, and this one is wet..."

[alexis_the_tiny]

Do you really think your Mom will get all over you if you tell her, I will not attend functions with him if he continues his behavior so you either let me stand up for myself or I don't come to family functions. I don't think cutting off family contact on big occasions is probably the best thing; unless your family life is not great? I sound like your mother now, huh! :) Are you young Alexis, because at some time in our lives, we all build different relationships with our parents and family and become grown up (this happens at different times in our lives); maybe this is one of those times?

It actually did happen once, a few years ago, when I told my mom I was unhappy with said uncle's wife saying something about my sister. I'm in my mid-20's now. My uncle knows I don't stand for religious, sexist or racist jokes. But he makes them in my hearing or directs some of them at me at the rare family functions when I do attend. In my very limited classroom experience, it seems almost like he's trying to get some kind of response or maybe get me into trouble with my mom again. He reminds me of some of the bad situations we talk about in social emotional skills classes I teach at school...:rolleyes:

[marni]

for some people, attention, even negative attention is the end all and be all.

just sayin.

[limewave]

Dear Dad,

Thank you for all of your help. That is all.

Love, Limewave

[emily_in_nc]

Dear Dad,

Thank you for all of your help. That is all.

Love, Limewave

Awww, Limewave. What a sweet little note. Hopefully you told him in person as well!

Emily, who misses her dad a lot

[Pax]

Dear Weather Gods,

Just have to say thanks for the sunshine today, and holding off the snow long enough for me to take my new bike out for a quick spin. It was dark and I'd had a couple of beers, but it was soooo fun!!! YAY!!

Signed,

Waiting for Spring

[Owlie]

Not-dear person:
Are you stupid? You couldn't find the actual article. Did you use this as an indication that you should perhaps find a different article? No. You gave me a freaking summary of the abstract. You gave me the summary of the summary. HOW IS THIS HELPFUL? I am going to mention your article in the paper, and that is it. Good luck doing the Powerpoint slides, because I really doubt that you have enough information to do it.

Dear two other group members:
Did you not get the memo that we were supposed to be studying depression? Instead, I get one article about PMS and one article about fat rats with diabetes. This really isn't all that helpful either.

Dear M:
I love you. Thank you so much for writing parts of the summary for me.

[Owlie]

Dear not-so-dear person from previous post:
So you took my advice. Good! Except that part in your email that said"you don't have to include it in the summary" is not going to cut it, because what's in the paper has to match what's on the slides! I realize you're from a country where women shouldn't be seen or heard, and you're acting like you're doing me a favor. Not going to fly, buddy.:mad:

[redrhodie]

Dear Old Friends,

We've obviously been growing apart for some time now, but I guess we're officially done. I'm hurt. I do understand your lives have gotten crazy since having kids, but an email would have meant a lot to me. I didn't expect this from either of you.

I'm really grateful for my other friends.

[Catrin]

(((Red)))

[bmccasland]

Red - We're here for you!

And I know the feeling about messages going unanswered. It's amazing who I don't hear from after moving cross-country. *sigh*

[Owlie]

Dear Old Friends,

We've obviously been growing apart for some time now, but I guess we're officially done. I'm hurt. I do understand your lives have gotten crazy since having kids, but an email would have meant a lot to me. I didn't expect this from either of you.

I'm really grateful for my other friends.

((Red))

[Reesha]

Dear Old Friends,

We've obviously been growing apart for some time now, but I guess we're officially done. I'm hurt. I do understand your lives have gotten crazy since having kids, but an email would have meant a lot to me. I didn't expect this from either of you.

I'm really grateful for my other friends.

Aw! I hope you feel better and that your other friends are more sensitive! I have grown apart from my friends that have kids too because it's all they want to talk about (which I understand-- but they aren't interested in what I'm up to anymore as a result). That's crummy!

[lph]

Aw, so sorry for you, Red. You deserve better!

[OakLeaf]

Aw, (((((red))))).

[indysteel]

Aw, so sorry for you, Red. You deserve better!

Indeed you do. (((Red)))! We love you, and I know you have other IRL friend's who have been awesome to you. Try to focus on them.

[Sky King]

Dear Self,

It's night skiing for heaven's sake, with the girls, on groomed runs. Your leg will be totally fine, quit stressing out about it.

[bmccasland]

Dear Cosmos -
So you decided that the fickle finger of fate was up for my little sister's FIL, the one senior adult that was stable in her family's life. That just stinks. So could you please be gentle with them while they get through this crisis? Please? And then maybe go easy on them for a while?

Sign me,
Big Sister who can't do squat to make it all better this time

[redrhodie]

Thanks for all the hugs. You guys are great.

You know, it's really hard to stay close to my old friends just because we don't have the same things in common anymore, but it's not like we stopped liking each other. I don't know, maybe my BC news freaked them out more than they let on. Who knows.

[indysteel]

Thanks for all the hugs. You guys are great.

You know, it's really hard to stay close to my old friends just because we don't have the same things in common anymore, but it's not like we stopped liking each other. I don't know, maybe my BC news freaked them out more than they let on. Who knows.

I think sometimes we let our guilt about having fallen out of touch with someone prevent us from reaching out when something "big" happens, be it an illness, a death or a major life change. That, and some people just underestimate how much these gestures mean in difficult times. We convince ourselves that something like a card or an email asking how you're doing doesn't matter in the grand scheme of what you're facing. But as you know, it does....

[Reesha]

Dear body,

After 7 weeks of hard work, THANK YOU for finally shedding some poundage. I know that I've been gaining muscle and losing fat, but that number going down does help keep me going, especially since my body composition sensor doesn't work at all. :grr:

[Biciclista]

Red, while D was in the hospital, his friends couldn't get enough of him. Now.... almost no one calls. Kind of strange. Cancer is a scary word.

[indysteel]

Red, while D was in the hospital, his friends couldn't get enough of him. Now.... almost no one calls. Kind of strange. Cancer is a scary word.

Speaking of this, how are you both doing? We haven't gotten a full update in a while.

[Biciclista]

The DH is getting better slowly still. The trip to Hawaii was really good for him, he ate LOTS and LOTS of fresh Hawaiian fruits, including nuts and avocados. He didn't do a lot, (got plenty of walking in ) while I swam every day. Towards the last two days, I finally got him to come down and play in the tidal beds with me; where all sorts of critters (including big green turtles) were waiting.
We went on a 10 mile bike ride Sunday; back in Seattle, and it was tough for him, but it was a perfect ride if you don't count the fact that we stopped suddenly because he hyperventilated coughing and had to get my son to rush ahead and get the truck to take us home. He still has lots of issues around coughing and nausea, which makes it hard for him to eat enough to gain much weight.
D went to PT for the first time yesterday, and they gave him one heck of a schedule. This is huge, because before that, the only exercise he's been doing is biking and walking, with no attention at all to his poor upper body. He's smiling more. I'm tanned and freckled. I swam in the ocean almost every day in Hawaii and only used sunscreen once.
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[indysteel]

Treehugger!! I sure like that smile! Thanks for sharing those.

Mimi, I'll keep praying for Don's steady progress and your continued emotional strength.

[azfiddle]

Mimi- thanks for the update. I'm so glad you were able to enjoy that trip to Hawaii. Loved the pics. I hope things just keep getting better.

[channlluv]

Hot-cha-cha, Mama!

Aloooooha!



Roxy

[redrhodie]

hot-cha-cha, mama!

Aloooooha!



Roxy

+1. You look great.

[maillotpois]

Those are GREAT pics! So glad you had a restful and healing trip. I know RD is a tough cookie, and having to take things slow has to be tough for him. Please give him a big hug from me. :)

[Pax]

Nice pics!!! Looks like a wonderful trip, it's amazing what some sunshine and relaxation can do for the human spirit.

[limewave]

Those are nice pictures! Hope you had a wonderful time.

[Biciclista]

Those are nice pictures! Hope you had a wonderful time.

oh yeah. And we are going back next year. That's how much we liked it.

[SadieKate]

That's splendiforous news, Mimi!

[OakLeaf]

I'm so glad you two could have some fun and relaxation. It looks wonderful!

[NbyNW]

Nice biceps, Mimi!

Love that you brought your Dahons with you to Hawaii. I hope Don continues to get stronger. That hospital stay was no cake walk!

[Owlie]

Great pictures! I'm glad you both enjoyed the trip. :)

[Crankin]

That tree climbing picture is cool!

[Biciclista]

That tree climbing picture is cool!

What cracked me up was how many people had to tell me I was climbing the tree the wrong way!

[Reesha]

You have some killer legs, Mimi, btw. I hope I have legs like yours when I am your age!!

Also how incredible is that blue sky! I'm glad you could get away with your husband :)

[Biciclista]

You have some killer legs, Mimi, btw. I hope I have legs like yours when I am your age!!

Also how incredible is that blue sky! I'm glad you could get away with your husband :)

I can thank bicycling for those legs. They were chicken legs once upon a time.

[PamNY]

Mimi, I am so glad you had a good trip.

What is the right way to climb that tree? Your way looks fine to me.

[laura*]

Dear Mother Nature:
It is February 1st and I am exercising my right as a resident of California to declare that the weather can't possibly be cold and miserable! In light of declaration, the (long) jeans have been put away.

Dear outside thermometer:
Please get with the program. Otherwise I will have to paste a large C over your F. 38C sounds like a proper California morning temperature.

Dear sun:
Thank you for living up to expectations this afternoon.

[bmccasland]

Dear colleague,
No need to get snarky when I asked if you're going to meet the project deadline. I haven't heard a peep from you about the report, field investigations, scheduling... nada, rien, zip. Funny thing, it's my head if we don't make the deadline, and I don't want to find out there are troubles at the end of the month. You may go back to your zoning out.... :confused:

[solobiker]

Mimi, thanks for sharing the pics. I am so happy that he is feeling better and that you two enjoyed a much deserved trip. :)

[marni]

What cracked me up was how many people had to tell me I was climbing the tree the wrong way!

well it looks to me like you started at the bottom and were trying to get to the top. Is there a better way to climb a tree? I don't think you would call going from the top to bottom climbing?

So glad you had a good trip.

marni

[alexis_the_tiny]

Mimi, that holiday sounds wonderful, glad the two of you had a chance to get away. And is there a right way to climb a tree??!!

Dear doctor, when you prescribed me corticosteriods for my allergies, don't you think it'd warrant more warning than just "It's something stronger than Zyrtec, just take it and come back in a week."?!?! Whatever Google is telling me about Xepasone is not very comforting...

[Reesha]

Dear favorite LBS,

You guys are amazing! Thank you for the free bike fitting before my giant charity ride and THANK YOU for offering to sell raffle tickets for the quilt my mom is donating. You are the best!!!!

[Sky King]

dear favorite lbs,

you guys are amazing! Thank you for the free bike fitting before my giant charity ride and thank you for offering to sell raffle tickets for the quilt my mom is donating. You are the best!!!!
like

[malkin]

I think it is easier to climb the tree on the top side of the arc.
Did you get a coconut?

[Biciclista]

I think it is easier to climb the tree on the top side of the arc.
Did you get a coconut?

according to my son, the monkey, it's better to power yourself up the underside of the tree because if you slip you land on your feet. I have seen him do it.

I, on the other hand am not strong enough to do that, I was just aping for a photo. I did not get a coconut there, although we collected them and my nephew opened two up and we ate them at another beach.

[SadieKate]

Dear Anonymous Person(s) Far and Wide:

Quit slamming carbs. Vegetables are carbs. Beans are carbs. Wheatberries are carbs. How about talking about simple vs complex carbs instead? Talk about glycemic load. You're leading the innocent astray.

[OakLeaf]

I have to say ... and I freely admit it may have more to do with enzymes and less with carbs, but I am feeling a lot better since I started cutting down on grains ... (which 80% of my grain intake was brown rice and almost all of the rest of it whole grains of other sorts) ...

(plus, most vegetables are water and protein with hardly any carbs...)

[VeganBikeChick]

I have to say ... and I freely admit it may have more to do with enzymes and less with carbs, but I am feeling a lot better since I started cutting down on grains ... (which 80% of my grain intake was brown rice and almost all of the rest of it whole grains of other sorts) ...

(plus, most vegetables are water and protein with hardly any carbs...)

I'm the same way. Pasta and grains do me in. I become the bloat factory. Much easier for my body to process plain ol' veggies and fruits. Even beans get me bloaty.

[BodhiTree]

I have to say ... and I freely admit it may have more to do with enzymes and less with carbs, but I am feeling a lot better since I started cutting down on grains ... (which 80% of my grain intake was brown rice and almost all of the rest of it whole grains of other sorts) ...

(plus, most vegetables are water and protein with hardly any carbs...)


I'm finding paleo type food choices make me feel a lot better also.

[lph]

(plus, most vegetables are water and protein with hardly any carbs...)

What kind of vegetables are you thinking of? I've always thought that most vegetables were relatively high on carbs and low in protein, though I know of exceptions.

I tried a search on nutritiondata.com, for vegetables highest in protein and total carbohydrate, and most of the top runners there had carb levels in grams a lot higher than protein levels in grams.

Not trying to be contrary, I'm truly curious ;) I've been experimenting with gradually substituting some carbs with more fat and protein, and it sure works well for keeping my blood sugar stable.

[OakLeaf]

Well, okay, you got me, it must be enzymes. :o

I was really pretty surprised when I looked stuff up. I don't entirely trust the USDA database, partly because food really isn't fungible, and partly because the sample sizes tend to be very small, but the results are so far off what I thought that I trust *that* much.

It's too early in the morning for me to go back and re-read the basic summaries, but I'm going to assume that what the database shows for carbs is for digestible carbs, because the total of fiber and sugar all by itself is often greater than the total carbohydrates. (That's the "by difference" part, I think - they can't test digestible carbs directly, so they derive it from the total by subtracting fiber and sugar. I think.)

"Average" vegetables like spinach and rappini have approximately the same amount of carbs and protein. Really surprising to me. But what surprised me the most is carrots - though it probably shouldn't have, since they're so high in sugar. Carrots have the same carb to protein ratio as long grain brown rice (10:1) - and yet carrots are one of those things that if I eat enough of them (or drink carrot juice) I feel so good that I wonder why I ever eat anything else.

So it must be enzymes. (But it's still not the simple sugars in carrots which overall make me feel bright, strong, quick and healthy, vs. the complex carbs in brown rice, which make me feel logy and slow though not at all bloated - I'm not allergic to it, it's something else.)

[lph]

Cool. I've never even heard of rappini, actually I'm continually hearing vegetables mentioned here I've never heard of :D But I'm fairly sure most of the veg. I eat regularly, not a very impressive variety, are lowish on protein. I'd be happy to find more high-protein ones so I'll have a closer look at that list, and then go pester our local Turkish vegetable guy who sells a lot of strange-looking growths.

[Catrin]

Vegetables...I need more of these in my diet. My current diet gives me great blood-sugar control, and I feel great so I really don't want to change things. However, I know that I am missing out nutritionally...so this discussion is helping to spur my curiosity.

[OakLeaf]

I've never even heard of rappini

AKA broccoli raab or broccoli rabe. Love me some bitter greens! :D

[malkin]

according to my son, the monkey, it's better to power yourself up the underside of the tree because if you slip you land on your feet. I have seen him do it.

I, on the other hand am not strong enough to do that, I was just aping for a photo. I did not get a coconut there, although we collected them and my nephew opened two up and we ate them at another beach.

So what were you doing wrong on your climb? (Apart from not sending a monkey in the first place?!)

Brewer found a coconut on the ground and spent the next several days breaking all the hard objects in our hotel room trying to get into it.

[alexis_the_tiny]

according to my son, the monkey, it's better to power yourself up the underside of the tree because if you slip you land on your feet. I have seen him do it.

Hmmm, thanks, Mimi, for that new knowledge. I always figured that as long as you scramble up a tree fast enough before a teacher or parent can come give you what for for climbing a tree in your Sunday or school uniform dress, you're gold. :p But, you seem to be doing it right in the photo though...

[Owlie]

Oak, I'm willing to bet the carrot thing is psychosomatic. Enzymes (or any protein) aren't going to last long in your digestive system. If your stomach acid doesn't get them, the peptidases will. I know that I get the "woo! I ate veggies! I feel great and healthy!", though not with carrots. I don't care for them. (Yay oral allergy syndrome.)

I will say that I do better on a higher-protein diet, but I'm not going to stop eating grains, or the occasional cookie, doughnut, slice of cake or anything else.

On a related note:
Dear friends--
Stop trying to get me in on your calorie-counting, meat-cutting diet thing. I like meat. I am not going to stop eating it. Food should be enjoyed, and counting calories is not going to let me enjoy it. I have enough problems. I don't need to add my meals to it.

[Crankin]

My opinion is you can go nuts with any type of eating plan, but yes, I agree that focusing on glycemic index and complex vs. simple carbs makes the focus a little different than saying "no carbs" at all.
On the other hand, restricting my intake of bread, pasta, bagels, etc. has helped me stabilize my weight enormously. And I haven't eaten things like donuts in years. I'm not saying I *never* eat bread, but the longer I go without having it 3-4X a day, the less I crave it. And it's made it a lot easier to just say no to any white flour stuff.
I think all of this becomes a bit more important, once you pass a certain age. For me, it was somewhere between age 35 and 40.

[Reesha]

I've been eating pretty paleo for the last two months and my partner and I went out to this ridiculously amazing Italian restaurant for dinner and I had pasta (handmade, oh god so delish) for the first time in months. My stomach was not amused. I've had the gurgles and cramps all night.

[Owlie]

I was pretty much vegetarian for a 6-week period one summer (by force--there wasn't any fridge space for meat and I was too squeamish to handle raw meat that year). My parents took me out for a steak dinner the night after that final. I was very unhappy that evening. I've never heard of it happening with grains, but I wonder if it's a matter of your digestive system going "Hang on! What is this?" if you haven't eaten it for a while.
My vegan best friend would have to start introducing small amounts of cheese into her diet a month before breaks because her mom thought she was just vegetarian...

I'm just a little suspicious of diets that revolve around the idea that some food group(s) are concentrated evil.

Anyway:
Dear BF:
Your girlfriend may have been gotten by the bodysnatchers. That is the only explanation for the fact that she bought running shorts last week and decided to clean all the things this week.
Sorry.

[limewave]

Dear Men,
Really, you don't need to race each other to open the door for me. One of you can open the door, the other can buy my coffee ;)
~Limewave

Dear Self,
It's okay to enjoy a little attention.
~Limewave

[Bethany1]

Dear IRS,

It's one thing to know I probably owe you money but did you have to flood my basement and break my heater on the same day?

I can see you doing that after taxes are due, but this is a bit premature isn't it?


Broke, Cold and Wet

*Edited after the heating guy left*

Umm...did you have to fry the motherboard to the heater so I don't have central heating until Friday? That's really mean.

[alexis_the_tiny]

(((Bethany))) That's cruddy. I hope it all sorts out for you. Sending lots of warm virtual hugs your way.

[Sky King]

Dear ex of my DD,

as I cannot be a helicopter mom, I am expressing my thoughts here instead. You just proved to me what I have thought all along, you are immature, a jerk and a few other bad words. I am so thankful that she has recognized that her life is better without you and I will be so happy when this week is over and she no longer has to interact with you.
Dear Daughter, you are amazing, I love watching you grow, go to the avalanche training, even if it means you won't get all the deposit back on the apartment. Your new life is way more important that a few hundred dollars.

[bmccasland]

Dear Project Manager,
Do not blame my office because you put the cart before the horse. Just because you have document B scheduled to be signed prior to document A (which I'm responsible for). NOW you figured out there's a two month disparity - is NOT my office's responsibility. I don't appreciate you citing my office for the reason the schedule is blown.

And now thanks to you, I get to do a major rewrite because the project description and construction schedule is rearranged, as well as all the environmental coordination.

In the future, plot the date you want to go to construction, and work back to when all the stars need to be aligned and allow for alignment time than trust a scheduling program which results in document B signed prior to document A.

Bless your heart. :mad:

[Pax]

My mom hasn't been feeling well again, this has been happening off and on since last summer. She FINALLY agreed to go to the doctor (she is a retired nurse who hasn't been to a doctor in 15 years), we went to urgent care on Monday, they referred her to a primary care doc for an appt. yesterday.

Long story short, the doc walked in and saw her O2 sats (83) and took a listen to her heart and lungs... then he called an ambulance to transport her to the ER. She's in congestive heart failure.

She was admitted to the hospital, they've started a million tests and so far we have severe aortic stenosis, and a hemoglobin of 6.5 (12 is normal).

Looks like minimum of a valve replacement and possibly a bypass. If anyone has some positive vibes, good wishes, or prayers to spare, pass them our way.

[OakLeaf]

((((((Pax & mom)))))

Sending healing vibes to her - and calm and strong to you both.

It can be so hard to understand, respect and especially discuss a parent's choices as they age. I'll be thinking about you...

[bmccasland]

(((((Pax and P's Mom))))))

Medical people seem to make the worst patients.

[Owlie]

My mom hasn't been feeling well again, this has been happening off and on since last summer. She FINALLY agreed to go to the doctor (she is a retired nurse who hasn't been to a doctor in 15 years), we went to urgent care on Monday, they referred her to a primary care doc for an appt. yesterday.

Long story short, the doc walked in and saw her O2 sats (83) and took a listen to her heart and lungs... then he called an ambulance to transport her to the ER. She's in congestive heart failure.

She was admitted to the hospital, they've started a million tests and so far we have severe aortic stenosis, and a hemoglobin of 6.5 (12 is normal).

Looks like minimum of a valve replacement and possibly a bypass. If anyone has some positive vibes, good wishes, or prayers to spare, pass them our way.

((Pax and Pax's mom))


Dear self:
You know, perhaps beer and two smores (from two hours ago) do not make the best ride fuel, even if you were only riding the trainer.

Dear whatever is in charge of soup:
How exactly did all the sausage end up in this container and not in the one I was eating all of last week?

[NbyNW]

(((Pax & Mom))) Oh, wow. Sounds serious, but it's a good thing that you now have some information you can work with, and it sounds like you will probably learn more in the coming days? Thoughts and prayers headed your way.

[jessmarimba]

(((Pax & Mom)))




Dear not-my-baby,
Why did you decided to show up 6 weeks early, on the very day I decided I would cave and get a massage from your mommy? Now I'm stranded with no massage therapist/pilates teacher for 2-3 months! At least you're oh-so-cute and very healthy and the sweetest thing in the world...but wow you've made a dramatic entrance already!!

(P.S., if anyone here knows a good massage therapist in Denver, I'm open to suggestions!)

[NbyNW]

Jess, what a bummer, but glad your MT/pilates teacher and her baby are doing okay!

Take it for what it is -- a chance to see what you can do on your own for a little while, or to expand your horizons and see who else is out there .... I don't know what I would do if my MT were out of commission, but I do make a point of working out with different pilates instructors -- they all have their strengths and I think I'm better off for not sticking with one person.

[Owlie]

Dear local park organization:
Why did you have to come up with some really cool-looking jerseys, and have them at your event when I'm broke? They're cool-looking enough that I'd buy one even though they're unisex and have elastic at the bottom!

But you guys rock. How did you get Gary freaking-Fisher out here, anyway?

[jessmarimba]

Jess, what a bummer, but glad your MT/pilates teacher and her baby are doing okay!

Take it for what it is -- a chance to see what you can do on your own for a little while, or to expand your horizons and see who else is out there .... I don't know what I would do if my MT were out of commission, but I do make a point of working out with different pilates instructors -- they all have their strengths and I think I'm better off for not sticking with one person.

Thanks, I'm on a desperate hunt for classes outside of business hours! There is a lunchtime class at a local rec center that I think I could get away with for the time being. I'm just a little overwhelmed, because she has pretty much been my physical therapist since I "graduated" from the outpatient program with my surgeon. I thought I'd have a few more weeks to prepare :) We just gave her a baby gift the day before she gave birth!

[Bethany1]

(((Pax and Mom)))

Dear Gas Repair Man,


For the first guy, you got the heat working. Thank you! Then it died an I had no heat again.

When the next guy came (Thank you for coming out after hours) he found one of the valves needs repaired and will order me one.

Between the two of you, my furnace is working. Now if you could fix the copper pipe from vibrating along the metal air duct it sits across, I will regain my sanity.

[alexis_the_tiny]

((((Pax & mom)))) hopefully now that the doctors know what is wrong, they can help your mom get well. Loads of good vibes your way!

Dear powers that be, training courses would be very welcome now. I know instinctively what will or will not fly in my classroom with my kids but I need the knowledge to justify why I will refuse to do an activity in the classroom. Instinct is not enough, I need good, solid knowledge to back up my arguments.

[indysteel]

(((Pax and Mom))). I'm so sorry to read this. Keeping both of you in my thoughts and prayers.

[Catrin]

Oh Pax, sorry to hear about your Mom's illness...sending warm thoughts and prayers for her comfort and speedy recovery!

[Biciclista]

Pax, sorry to hear about your mom. How old is she? I hope her illness can be managed. When we found my grandmother had the same thing, we thought it was a death sentence. But it was not.

[spokewench]

Sorry to hear about your Mom, Pax. Hang in there and here's all my positive thoughts heading both your ways!

[emily_in_nc]

Pax, sorry to hear about your mom. How old is she? I hope her illness can be managed. When we found my grandmother had the same thing, we thought it was a death sentence. But it was not.

Ditto with my grandmother. Good luck Pax's mom!

Dear Yoga facility,

I love you, but if you know ahead of time that you are going to cancel one of your "daily, 9 am" classes due to a retreat going on, wouldja mind putting up a sign, or something? Not only did I go this morning only to be turned away, but I also told another gal, and she also tried to go to meet me there.

Sigh...I love Belize, but there are some basic things about customer service they just don't "get". :(

[Crankin]

Sorry about your mom Pax.
Dear body,
Why are you so tired from xcountry skiing? It was so fun, but I am exhausted.