Dogmama, I'm sorry to hear that the father-daughter relationship isn't the best at this time.

Please recognize my comments are made in context of the reality that my partner has 2 grown children..in their early 30's.

Most likely you continue to give space to hubby for him to improve relationship with his adult daughter. It has been hurtful and difficult for him, being the birth parent when an adult child continues to ignore gifts of generosity.