Quote Originally Posted by lph View Post
I'm known as that much of a loner that if someone asks "hey, shall we do this or that together?" I can say "sorry, not today, I need/want to ride on my own today, how about Thursday", and then I can make Thursday the social occasion.
(...) There isn't really any reason you should have to defend wanting to do something on your own instead of with a group of people.
It's ironic that I wrote this just a short while ago, because it turned out I was being way too optimistic. As I've mentioned here elsewhere, in the meantime a friend of mine asked me to ride with him, I told him sorry, not today, I ended up riding on my own (I had planned to ride with another, new group but managed to mess up and miss it), and was "spotted" by said friend who went ballistic...

I find it completely bizarre behaviour, but if it's any consolation to those of you out there with friends who read all kinds of personal behaviour, wants and likings into biking, there seem to be lots of us, unfortunately.

From a non-counselors point of view I have trouble understanding how someone insecure and worried about being abandoned will do everything possible to actually hurt people to the point that they WILL be abandoned. What's up with that?