Dogmomma - I agree with the others who said that no monetary amount is going to 'solve' this thing with your step-daughter. You should do what you want to do concerning her wedding and be happy with that (and the consequences).


I do feel the need to point out that not all children who marry in their 30's and have their wedding paid for by their parents turn into money-grubbing, entitled brats. I'm frankly a little horrified at the venom here. Yes, there are people who go into debt to have the big huge wedding for appearances. And yes, there are adult children who suck their parents dry for all sorts of reasons. But there are also responsible, professional adult children who throw a big wedding and share a fantastic day with friends and family (that will long be remembered by everyone in attendance) paid for by their parents without the need to take out a second mortgage, drain the savings or melt a credit card. And not all 35 year old first time brides who have such a wedding end up as spoiled, problem adults.

Just in case anyone was wondering...