Jess is right, she does need some therapy to come to terms with reality. Her actions toward her father have been passive/aggressive and up until recently her father and I have been accepting and loving. Not tooting our own horns, but it's the truth. We've overlooked many transgressions, nasty comments & hurtful actions. A year ago, I made Christmas dinner and at the last minute she called, said she was helping a friend move & could we hold dinner for two hours. That was it for me. I told her maybe we'd do it some other time but dinner was ready in 30 minutes & I could not hold it. I told her father it was "game over" as far as I was concerned.

LPH & others have said that gifts should be given willingly & from the heart. I had never thought about that - I know - dumb - when it comes to her I always did what I thought we should do, rather than what we really felt.

What goes around comes around. The man she is marrying has two kids - ages 17 (boy) and 11 (girl.)