Quote Originally Posted by Crankin View Post
Well, truthfully, to answer Mimi's question, the kind of person who would want their partner to give up something that is so defining for them is a person who is lonely. A person who maybe isn't good at that particular activity, and it makes them feel badly, diminished. When you are so involved in something like racing (but it could be anything) it is all about you. I have known enough racers to know that it takes a certain kind of focus on yourself, which some people construe as selfish.
well, if one is going to venture into dimestore analysis, sure "lonely" could be the reason but there's also control issues, insecurity, fear of abandonment, fear of change, fear of the unkown....