Say you do stop racing in a few years. What if you find a new passion, what then? What if you become an artist and he doesn't like the way you run around in paint splattered clothes for example.

Is it about the bike riding or about supporting you in something you believe in so much? Also, are you making an honest attempt at balance in your life? When with him is your conversation mostly about biking, training, etc.?

I don't know and don't mean to imply anything wrong. You noted this is your side only and there are always two sides to every story. And he is not here to give his side.

Notice the couples who get along well either share the same passion or support each other's passions. In other words, they may not share the same passion but share in the passion.

I've seen this in various situations. In military families some husbands live and breathe military life and do not respect the wives' roles, from stay-at-home moms to doctors. And the reverse has happened too.

But people who have more rounded and balanced lives tend to weather better. That said, there are seasons when the focus has to sharpen somewhat but, it is a season. Keeping perspective of what the agreed big picture really helps.

I agree with the others, counseling is a really good idea.

Best of luck to you.