Quote Originally Posted by indysteel View Post
Well, I used the word closure because he did. It's normally a concept I try to avoid. My point, however, was to suggest that closure is different from acceptance and that it's acceptance, really, that allows us to move on. So, if talking to her will help the OP better accept something about this situation, then great. Otherwise, I think "getting closure" could just contribute to his grief.

Granted, I actually don't think he's looking for closure, as much as he's looking for an opening. And who knows, maybe they really are meant to be. But if he cares about her and cares about making sure the second time around is more successful, then he better be prepared for some fall out. At best, his ex is feeling VERY conflicted, so it likely won't be smooth sailing.

I agree 100%.

I'm also a romantic, so I can't help but hope that their love was destined to be and that figuring this out now instead of 20 years down the road is worth the bumpy road it could be creating. Yes, someone could get hurt, but you can't live your life trying to avoid getting hurt because then you miss out on all the BIG things. At least...in my humble opinion.