Quote Originally Posted by indysteel View Post
In my experience, "closure" is usually overrated--at least the kind of closure that we think the other person in a relationship can provide. The only "closure" that has actually benefitted me is the kind I've provided myself. No one else can really help you accept the past and move on. That has to come from within. Even when I've gotten the answers I thought I needed, I learned that they didn't really ease my pain.
Yeah, I hestitated to use the word 'closure' because of all the stereotypes surrounding it.

But honestly, getting it off your chest (and letting her get it off hers) can do a world of good. Even if it's messy at first.

Personally, I'm of the mind that holding back and keeping secrets is where relationship 'baggage' comes from. I don't have any. Of course, I also didn't marry for the first time until I was 35, so maybe that's not the right way of going about things.