How much do looks define your self-image?

[Miranda]

Hair is funny because it can change so radically so quickly. Even though it will grow back out (for most people), there's no hiding it for those weeks or months until it does. You don't get wrinkles, gain weight, get b00bsag, whatever, in 30 minutes without any ability to process the change emotionally, but your hair affects your appearance just as much as those things.

I've definitely had haircuts that have left me in tears, and pretty recently too. Granted a large part of it was tears of frustation with I think six consecutive stylists in my new town who gave me truly horrible haircuts.

I am still thinking about my overall response to this thread. Good one, lph.

However, Oakleaf...

I am a natural redhead. If you ask Mr. Google, only 1-2% of human world population is born that way. All my life, it has been the one thing I consider to be a uniqueness that makes me... "me".

Well, short of the story, major disaster with the hairdresser and finding a good new one is a freakin nightmare. Here's a tip someone gave to me, that I recently just applied...

The next time you are out and see some woman with beautiful hair you lust after etc., go talk to her. Pay her the compliment of her beautiful hair, and then ask who is her stylist. IME the woman will be flattered, and happy to tell you where to go find the stylist.

When you find this person, do not make the first meeting the actual hair cut appointment. Call ahead and/or stop by to meet the person. Some do a consult appointment. Get their opinion, and get a vibe of how the two of you gel together... and/or look at her client that might be there at the time. IF all that feels "ok", then proceed with a basic trim appointment. If you feel good about that, then do the next one to something else if desired.

Signed,
Miranda
Neurotic Vain Hair Person