etiquette question

[GLC1968]

We used 'Save the Date' cards for our wedding for two reasons. 1) 90% of our guests were coming from far away (plane ride far) and 2) we got married in FL during spring break season and hotels & airfare were hard to come by...

We sent them out with hotel info so that people could get a head start. We also blocked off rooms at three different costs of hotels both to get better rates and to make sure there was enough loging available for our guests.

That said, to send a STD but not invite the person is horribly tacky. It's a pain to get the STD's with hotel info out in advance, so I can't see why anyone would do it unless they plan to invite those people.

In your case, my guess is that either the invite got lost in the mail or that they are sending them out in waves and yours is on the way (though, 2 weeks is a pretty big wave). I would absolutely ask the bride though - it's not like it's a secret party or anything. I'd be crushed if someone from far away wanted to attend my wedding and a stupid misunderstanding or a lost invite made that impossible. Ask her. You are breaking NO etiquette rules by doing so....

[SadieKate]

That said, to send a STD but not invite the person is horribly tacky.

Actually, sending a STD is tacky no matter what. Beyond tacky.

[Aggie_Ama]

Actually, sending a STD is tacky no matter what. Beyond tacky.

I just spit apple on my work computer. Great now I have to go find that LCD cleaner so the IT guys don't get mad. There goes my break- thanks Sadie!

[SadieKate]

I just spit apple on my work computer. Great now I have to go find that LCD cleaner so the IT guys don't get mad. There goes my break- thanks Sadie!

Here you go.

http://www.raincitystory.com/flash/screenclean.swf

This acronym is sort of like VD for Valentine's Day and should probably be avoided.

[redrhodie]

Oh, my...STD went right over my head.

That would be tacky.

[channlluv]

Oh, my...STD went right over my head.

That would be tacky.

Oh geez, me too. It still took me a few seconds after reading your post to realize there was a joke there beyond Miss Manners or someone frowning on a Save the Date card, which I'd never heard of before this thread. Ha!

Roxy

[eclectic]

Oh geez, me too. It still took me a few seconds after reading your post to realize there was a joke there beyond Miss Manners or someone frowning on a Save the Date card, which I'd never heard of before this thread. Ha!

Roxy

Took me awhile too - I thought "what is wrong with STD cards - I think they are quite considerate"

DUH - talk about non divergent thinking!

[TrekTheKaty]

Here you go.

http://www.raincitystory.com/flash/screenclean.swf

Good one.

[Possegal]

STD is an abbreviation I use constantly in my job. However there, it means Severely Toxic Dose. But you should have seen the look on my face that first day when it was all STD this and STD that. I was like - what the heck did I get myself in to? I finally broke down and asked someone, who just laughed since as I've learned, it is a common mistake with new folks on the job.

[redrhodie]

Actually, a StD was appropriate in this case. The wedding is in Boston the same weekend as the marathon, and lots of guests will be travelling. Booking a room within 6 weeks would be problematic.

Thanks for the insight so far. Thinking about how to word an email to the bride. I think I will wait another week in case it comes.

I have gotten 2 pieces of mail delivered to my box that were not mine last week, so there is an issue with my mail.

[Aggie_Ama]

I have gotten 2 pieces of mail delivered to my box that were not mine last week, so there is an issue with my mail.

Well you could say that. And you could also say you just wanted to not be "that person" that didn't RSVP. I have been married 5 years I still remember who didn't RSVP.