Hubby is mad that I won't ride......

[Starfish]

... and as for the saddle, honestly... if you were really into cycling (and that's perfectly okay that you're not!), you would have found one already that worked.

Can't agree here. I love cycling, and have been at it for about 4-5 years now. I'm still dialing in just the right saddle.

SO, don't let the saddle problem discourage you. Its a great sport, so focus on first being able to ride pain free. Then find a peer group that will help you get stronger. Then you will be strong enough to go on rides with DH where he isn't going all out but you'll be able to ride fast enough that he'll still be able to enjoy it.

Great advice!