I wouldn't talk to him, I wouldn't send anything to anybody, and I would pretend like he doesn't exist. That includes talking to his wife, other business partners, or anybody else to do with this.
That's just me thoughI know you did a lot of work for free but you should give up nothing else. That includes postage, time, or anything.
Rude. I read this earlier today and couldn't believe it. What a bully!