I have to be honest and say that I think we have beat this issue dead! It does NOT mean that I don't understand the feelings of Celery . I do think that we all want to offer suggestions and encouragement, but the reality of the situation is that we don't don't know the entire situation and we also don't know Celery.( and he doesn't know us either)

I am trying very hard not to be judgemental, but I too, think it's strange for a man to go on a womans forum and ask for personal advice/suggestions. Those things normally are reserved for family, friends, coworkers etc...There are times that we all need a shoulder to lean on, someone to talk with, but this forum is NOT set up for those issues.

Celery, I wish you luck in whatever you decide to do, but can we please leave all of this with you and the people that are the closest to you?