Saying nothing, not doing much is abit difficult

[Crankin]

You know, I was being pretty honest in my replies; maybe they were a bit off topic, but my general feeling is that if any human being thinks s/he is not judgmental, s/he is fooling herself. The main thing for me is to acknowledge it, and move on. I never become zealous about cycling (or anything else), unless I am talking to others who share my passion, like everyone here! I've been told point blank to my face that my level of activity makes people feel bad about themselves, by former colleagues. It was said in a joking way, but I know they meant it. Again, it's not like I was pushing my lifestyle, more like it was discussed when asked what i did over the weekend. And believe me, there were many moments when I *wanted* to say something about others constant patter about their children or other things that really got on my nerves. Instead, I smiled and tried to be a good listener. I am sure others here have experienced this. I don't prescribe anything to my friends, unless they ask. Again, it's just that I feel like as I age, it's harder and harder to find people with like minds.

[emily_in_nc]

YI've been told point blank to my face that my level of activity makes people feel bad about themselves, by former colleagues.
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Again, it's just that I feel like as I age, it's harder and harder to find people with like minds.

Yes and Yes! I couldn't agree more...

[Crankin]

Emily, I've always said we were separated at birth.

[ny biker]

I read the original post as concern for a friend's health. Because being 50 lbs overweight does lead to all sorts of health problems. I also didn't see condescension in it, at least no more than anyone else has about other peoples' dietary habits, which can rank with religion and politics in terms of divisive subjects.

I don't get involved with friends' diets unless they specifically mention that they're trying to make a change, and even then I usually just try to be supportive in a general way, regardless of what I really think about it. If a friend or relative started talking about something specific like a detox diet I might ask what they hoped to gain from it, and then might indicate if I thought a different approach would be better. If it was someone I didn't know that well, I'd stick with a vague supportive comment.

[emily_in_nc]

Emily, I've always said we were separated at birth.

Good chance of it!

[malkin]

I don't even think the thread got out of control.
I've seen piano tuners argue more viciously than this!

[salsabike]

Yep, I agree, Malkin. Nothing out of control on this thread--just people stating their views honestly.

Piano tuners?? I don't want to get off topic, but would love to hear THAT story someday.

[PamNY]

Piano tuners?? I don't want to get off topic, but would love to hear THAT story someday.

Me too.