Saying nothing, not doing much is abit difficult

[Crankin]

Salsa, I do enjoy meeting people with different interests, but, when it comes down to who i am actually spending my time with, it's the people I ride with or do other outdoor stuff with. Since this is the thing that it is the center of my life, whatever else happens has to happen outside this parameter. I hope I am explaining this so it makes sense. And quite frankly, there's tons of research that shows we are usually friends with with people that we share similarities with, in some way. On the one hand, I *know* a huge amount of people, many of whom are quite different than me. I am friendly, cordial, interested, but it's not going to go beyond that. I'd be lying if I said I wanted to spend my time with someone who was going to McDonalds and shopping in the mall every weekend. And Blueberry, not everyone who I ride with is skinny. There's a variety in body types, just as in any group. It's the lifestyle that's the same. My friends who no longer have much in common with me anymore have a totally different lifestyle, and one of them (the one who is not really overweight, just acts like an old lady) is constantly saying, "Well, I can't be like you." The thing is, I never say she should be, and I never, ever brag about what I do. It seems like, to her, just the fact that I ride, x country ski is enough to make her feel badly, without me saying anything. I know that it is her problem, but... it's getting pretty hard to find a common ground, when she would rather talk about her other friends's operations, health issues, and "retirement."
Sometimes I feel like I am getting younger, and everyone else around me is getting older. It's not that the people in my riding groups haven't had health issues; it's the fact they deal with them and keep going, with being active being the main priority. It's the main reason why I am no longer active at my synagogue. All I see are bent over, unhealthy looking people among those who are my age.