Oak, I feel for you. I only lead 2-3 rides a year now. They are set routes (by me!) that are annual events for one of my clubs. We became friends with a guy who was a new leader a couple of years ago and he has become a prolific leader for AMC. But, he always wants to eat dinner and socialize afterwards and I do not prefer to be hanging around in sweaty bike clothes for hours. We did a trip to Mystic, CT with him early in the summer and everyone else made fun of our "camping" shower we brought along in the car. He leads rides every weekend and I just don't want to do that. It seems like the rides are being overpopulated by a bunch of whiny women from the city.