Gap year(s)

[Trek420]

I grew up around my mom - who dropped out after two years to get married and start a family, and for almost two decades dreamed about being in college, until she finally joined Teacher Corps and finished her degree at I think 37.

My mom dropped out of Cal where she was pursuing an architecture degree when WWII happened. She had learned enough by then to work on logistics of the Liberty ships and she designed the home we kids grew up in (amazing design). She went back to school at about 40 when I started kindergarten and completed a Masters in early childhood ed.

... I don't feel like it's a must-have anymore. I like the choices I made. I like being in school right now. And to tell the truth, there are a lot of adults who go back, so you won't be alone.

I think there's a lot of acceptance of the working student, the returning student now. And if there's an HR person in the bunch I've been told in job search coaching that it's a good thing when it comes to education in putting something like "BA in art in process". Hope that's correct. In fact it's funny since they may think "oh, 20's" and one shows up "50's? Looks 40. Well she bikes".

Like my climbing, slow, steady progress I suppose.

But back to the OP; sure. Take a gap year. But I'd make sure it somehow prepares one for school. Because I can tell you once you take your foot off the pedal even for a moment or a term it's so hard to get back going again. If I had it to do over I would have never stopped.

[Melalvai]

I felt a little guilty because I haven't checked in for a few days to see if I had any answers to my question, but whoa! What a great conversation! Thank you so much for all your replies.

I'll tell her about Habitat for Humanity and Americorps. I think she's pretty set on going straight to college, which is ok too. Maybe after a semester or two or four, she'll want to take that gap year after all.

This has me thinking that maybe I need a gap year now.

Yeah, me too!

If I had to do it all over again, I would take a year off or so, and ride across country by bike.

Yeah, me too! Actually I'd like to do the Superheroes Ride.

I always felt I traded a gap year or traveling abroad, that sort of thing, for getting married early & having a kid. It was a pretty good trade!

[Crankin]

After reading your other thread about your DH's father, I realized how young you are, Melavai. Since most people i know with seniors in HS are between 45 and 60, I kind of did a double take when you said your FIL died at age 57... hey, you should take a gap year. With your daughter!

[smilingcat]

First of all, I would like to apologize to anyone who was hurt with my comment about my sister being the only one... Part of it has to do with my family dynamics.

Regardless, I do apologize to those who may have been hurt by my insensitive comment. We all take different life path and no single path is the right one. What is the right path for you is that you are happy and content with the decision you make. I think that is what makes life worth while.

sincerely,

Smilingcat

[Trek420]

First of all, I would like to apologize to anyone who was hurt with my comment about my sister being the only one...

sincerely,

Smilingcat

I didn't mind. Not offended in the least. I think this is a great discussion and always good to take stock of the past. Who said something along the lines of "the unexamined life is not worth living" something like that. Socrates, I think? Anyway ...

if I could rewind there's lots I'd do differently but then there'd also be a lot I'd miss. Maybe this is another thread: If you could go back and talk to younger you what would you say? I'd tell her:

There are 2 year degrees and certifications. Get some while catching up in community college and then gone on.

You love cooking your way through school (sometimes, and at some of the eateries). Stay with it.

Do not listen to the advisor at CCA who said "Major in design, that's where the jobs are. There's no future in illustration"