lph - that's a really good point. There is definitely a sadness factor to it as well. I should probably work on separating those two feelings before trying to deal with the guilt. I am very much OK with being sad about change. I spent my life moving around and I remember my mom telling us during one of our particularly difficult ones "being sad when you leave only means that you had a good time and that is something you should be happy about". Somehow, that always makes me appreciate the sadness.

I do get the idea of letting go of things that no longer apply to our lives...but unfortunately, in both of these cases, that's not entirely the situation. Though, we do both have more responsibilities at work, so the farm is getting to be a bigger burden than it used to be. I could certainly frame it that way in my head. That's another good point.

Irulan - good mantras! I'll try it!