indy, I know how you feel. This is the reason I've gradually become a Christmas grouch - it's absolutely impossible to keep everybody happy because expectations are so sky high. No matter how much I actually do like both my in-laws and my parents, in each their way, we connect best doing certain things that we have in common, not trying to be this warm and fuzzy knot of happy family all together at Christmas time.

Last year I finally got to do what I wanted, and we ran away on holiday to the Middle East. It was great