Oh! And don't forget the power of..."The Best Friend" - I couldn't live without mine - she's the best: non judgmental, unassuming and she has big ears for my many tangents. Don't be afraid to turn to those who support you when you're low - I'm sure you'd do the same for them. Good luck, and remember, there are good men (really!) out there and you deserve one when you're truly ready to go in that direction. Give hugs to your kids.