Quote Originally Posted by Honeypie
You all have my best interest in mind, even though you have differing views. I appreciate it believe me.

10 years on/off of marriage and individual counseling. Restraining order for him, anger management, police cars. Kids are older in HS. They don't want to live with him. He never went to their games, programs, took them to doctor. I worked the entire marriage and went to school at night, did all the house work, yard work, painted the house. I was not allowed to talk on the phone, make money decisions, even go shopping alone. We did seperate for 2 years, I took him back, the cops were at my door within a few days.

I am done, the day I filed, my chest pains, insomnia and headaches stopped. How much do you take from someone?.
Geez why didn't say that before... you probably stayed way too long. No abuse from either spouse should ever be tolerated. Especially when children are around, even in HS. Get out, go home to your mom and dad (if possible) so the kids and you have a good support system. If you can't go home, then make sure you have friends and others around to talk to and with. Make sure the kids are also kept in the loop. They probably wonder why you took so long to throw in the towel.

Just a word of advice, what you say indicates your husband was controlling and you tolerated his poor behavior. It's not uncommon to shortly find yourself in another controlling relationship ( the odds are very high). Seek counseling for yourself. Be in no rush to find another man. Your kids need you right now let your friends and family provide companionship. Consider finding a bike club in your area. Great way to meet other folks. If you are religious, most churches have support groups for divorcing parents with children. Fellowship in any form will help you through the bad times.