Gals.... I not saying "needy" is a good thing and not saying the husband is blameless. I'm just saying if the marriage is to work, some examination is required. I'm all about doing what is right by the children. If it's best the kids have an intact home with mom and dad then that's what's needs to be worked on.

If the husband is a needy guy, then that needs to be recognized and dealt with but not catered to. I do not believe poor behavior should be condoned. But if all of the attention has been given to the kids and not to the husband, that does need to be examined because that's poor behavior as well.

Get yourselves to a good marriage counselor. Try and make the marriage work. At least until the children are older and out of the house. You might be surprised how better things are when the adults stop focusing on their own "wants" and both focus on the wants and needs of the children.