Help, Divorce

[Selkie]

Honeypie
Hang in there, girlfriend. I survived my parent's bad marriage---Catholics who stuck with a mutually abusive relationship "for the kids" and because they thought they'd "go to hell" for divorcing. How many times did we hear my dad say, "if it weren't for you kids, I'd leave your mother." Believe me, nothing is worse than feeling like your mere existence is the reason for your parents' unhappiness. By the way, my parents went through marriage counseling---dragged us kids along once. What a nightmare.
Sounds like you are doing the right thing for yourself and for your children. Life's difficult but you'll get through this and you'll be stronger for having survived it.
Cindy Sue's advice is right on the mark. :-) She's a wise woman, indeed.
I consider myself a "post-feminist" but believe that we ladies owe a huge debt to "feminists." Wouldn't you consider Susan B. Anthony a feminist? I'm sure glad I can vote!