Help, Divorce

[Pax]

..... as usual, I risk alienating someone with my harsh words, but some things cannot be left unspoken!



Oh boy!

"a little needy"?! She's not giving him what he "requires." Was she "more attentive to the children?"

Puhleeez!

I should hope she is more attentive to the children. Unlike honeypie's able husband, children "need".....

bciPam's reply reminds me of when my mother (bless her Christian heart!) said "he's just a man" when my ex-husband cheated on me repeatedly (and several other things I won't get into in this reply). Oh yeah, and she also told me I was wasting my time going to college and I should just stay married and have some kids. Can you believe that?

"interesting" indeed! When my ex said he "wanted to get back together" - he was not only dating someone, but engaged! I can only speculate.....

honeypie - I'm not a "feminist" - I'm just a gal with some experience with what you are going through. Put yourself and your children first. You deserve respect! And you deserve to be able to trust the people closest in your life.

Honey Pie: My recommendation is to:

Ask yourself if you can trust him

and

Ask yourself if he respects you

if the answer is no to either question, do yourself and your kids a favor and honestly evaluate what is important in your life. If this requires the help of a counselor, so be it..........

Well said cindysue.

I would add that I am a feminist and don't view that as a negative thing. I believe women are strong , capable, and powerful...the definition of feminism is: Belief in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes. We need to stop apologizing for this and realize that the old stereotypes (apparently held by bcipam) should be reviewed and hopefully discarded.

<climbing off soapbox> I'm sorry to hear about your pain Honeypie, positive vibes are headed your way. ((()))