..... as usual, I risk alienating someone with my harsh words, but some things cannot be left unspoken!

Quote Originally Posted by bcipam
It's interesting he is dating but also wants to get back together. He is obviously a man that's alittle "needy" (just my opinion based on nothing) and wants and requires the support and companionship that a woman provides. Possibly he feels he did not get that from you for whatever reason. Were you more attentive to the children? Most men want to be the center of the universe (just like a child). Was he treated that way or like a distance moon?
Oh boy!

"a little needy"?! She's not giving him what he "requires." Was she "more attentive to the children?"

Puhleeez!

I should hope she is more attentive to the children. Unlike honeypie's able husband, children "need".....

bciPam's reply reminds me of when my mother (bless her Christian heart!) said "he's just a man" when my ex-husband cheated on me repeatedly (and several other things I won't get into in this reply). Oh yeah, and she also told me I was wasting my time going to college and I should just stay married and have some kids. Can you believe that?

"interesting" indeed! When my ex said he "wanted to get back together" - he was not only dating someone, but engaged! I can only speculate.....

honeypie - I'm not a "feminist" - I'm just a gal with some experience with what you are going through. Put yourself and your children first. You deserve respect! And you deserve to be able to trust the people closest in your life.

Honey Pie: My recommendation is to:

Ask yourself if you can trust him

and

Ask yourself if he respects you

if the answer is no to either question, do yourself and your kids a favor and honestly evaluate what is important in your life. If this requires the help of a counselor, so be it..........