Help, Divorce

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I never want to see a marriage break up, especially when children are involved. Obviously finding a good marriage and family counselor is very important.

Have you ever just sat down with your husband and asked him what's not working between you two? Have you been as receptive to his needs as you expect him to be to yours? No time better than now to be open and honest (but not nagging and condescening) and try to talk things out.

It's interesting he is dating but also wants to get back together. He is obviously a man that's alittle "needy" (just my opinion based on nothing) and wants and requires the support and companionship that a woman provides. Possibly he feels he did not get that from you for whatever reason. Were you more attentive to the children? Most men want to be the center of the universe (just like a child). Was he treated that way or like a distance moon?

Before the feminists jump on me, I want you to know I don't think this is all or even your fault but marriage does take two and to be sucessful, compromise is required. Good luck. Hopefully he is a good father and wants to be in your childrens' lives. He needs to know however, that its not healthy for him to see or be with the children if he is also including a casual girlfriend in the activities. He should devote his time visiting with his children not also taking care of a girfriend. Don't take anything he does or his bad behavior personally. He is acting like an indulgent little boy. You need for him to step up and be a man for you and your children.

I feel for you and pray you receive the guidance you need. Take care.