coping skills

[jessmarimba]

Ooh I would definitely try to get him alone and maybe record a conversation, get his stories. That'd be pretty cool.

My dad stops listening when he's had too much to drink. At that point, I make sure he has someone else to talk to and I make my exit.

[Miranda]

I hope you do get to take your dad out alone. Maybe you can send your step mom to the salon for some girl time only activity lol.

Ok... this is partly lame dysfunctional advice... but this is what I've come to in a smiliar situation...

1) have no expectations or "hope" that things will be good... thus when you are already flat on the floor, you have no further to fall with disappointment, somewhat less painful

2) just say "no" and don't go / or do it, activity xyz

3) if present, close my eyes and tell myself that this must be some life character test of strength, and what can I get out of it to better myself in an awful situation

Good Luck!

[shootingstar]

I'm sorry for the loss of your father, redhodie. So glad you spent a great day together with him.

[NbyNW]

So sorry for your loss. I missed this thread last month; I'm glad you got some quality time with your dad while you had the chance.

[Sky King]

Just heading out for a nice ride before it gets hot. I will laugh, smile and enjoy all the beauty around and think of you and your father. Later I will drive to the assisted living and give my father a big hug. Thank you for sharing, you are an amazing woman.

[redrhodie]

Thank you all so much, everyone. Feeling emotionally good today, but physically drained. I'm resting up, and going for ice cream later in Ernie's honor, and you should, too ( if you want an excuse for ice cream). He'd get a kick out of that.

[snapdragen]

Red, I'm glad you had that last perfect day with your dad. Like Indy, you had me in tears...but smiling too. (((((hugs)))))

[indysteel]

Red, DH and I are going for ice cream now. We'll think you and Ernie. Lota of hugs to you.