Is there any support network nearby (American Cancer Association?) that might have a breast cancer support group of some sort? We have a Breast Cancer Resource Center in our town with a library,support groups and you can sign up to have a "buddy" to call on for support through your diagnosis and treatment. You may be surprised how your friends and family can rise to the occasion when you tell them how you need them to help you! The surgery decision is so personal-you are the only one who will know what is right. You have every right to make your own choice and be supported for it. Take good care of yourself! tokie