Quote Originally Posted by crazycanuck View Post
Throw away the mags as much of it's gunk.
What CC said!

Hang in there!

Stop beating yourself up with all this stuff you are reading, stop counting and measuring, stop chasing fads.

From what you said about your mom, it sounds like she may have taught some challenging food behaviors as you were growing up.

Those gut surgeries fail when people force so much food into themselves that their stomach stretches and creates a new big pouch. Please don't even consider getting it done to yourself.

I think going to a nutritionist with the goal of learning about food in general (NOT weightloss!!!) would be an excellent place to go from here. As long as it's not the charlatan you went to before.

Somewhere on this board is a piece written by a TE'er who went to her doc for a check up, and got a lecture about how she was obese and needed to exercise. She had just finished an Ironman triathlon.

So, yes, some folks have a set point that is on the sturdy side. (my sweetie, for example, riding SF to LA in the AIDS Lifecycle several times and looking cuddly every step of the way)

If that's the case with you, then learn all the aspects of how to fuel the machine in a positive way, and take on the world! Stop punishing yourself! Ask a good nutritionist to teach you how to eat without counting, without restrictions, without searching for quick cures and miraculous snake oil.

What is that Michael Pollan quote? "Eat real food. Not too much. Mostly from plants."? Something like that, anyway. Eat food that has value for the joy and fuel it brings, not for some purported magical effect it has on weight. Eat food your body likes. (if it makes you uncomfortable and gassy, don't eat it. if it feels like lead in your tummy, don't eat it) A nutritionist who isn't out to sell you crap shakes and crap bars can teach you how to gauge what foods make your body happy.

Let go of the urge to let your life be "dominated" by your weight. Find something FUN to dominate your life instead. Find something deeply meaningful to dominate your life instead. Find something that adds joy to the world and contributes to the good of society to dominate your life instead.

Eat real food. Enrich your life. F*ck the weight. (to paraphrase Mr. Pollan)