Quote Originally Posted by tangentgirl View Post
You know, whether it's about cycling or basketweaving, this whole "having a vendetta" thing against friends sucks. You shouldn't have to tiptoe around friends. You shouldn't have to worry that they will be jealous if you ride alone sometimes. That's kind of ridiculous.
That's what I'm thinking.

Maybe you should plan a real training ride that meets your goals (the right location and distance for you) and then just tell her, you're doing this ride but it needs to be a training ride so your goal will be x miles/hour and you will only be stopping x times (or after x miles), and she's welcome to come along. Then if she wants to join you, she comes along and you stick to your plan. But if she gets angry, either because you're not doing her group ride or because she rides with you and wants to stop but you refuse or she gets angry that you dropped her etc. etc., then you don't own that issue.