How do you get your DH/SO interested in riding with you?

[shootingstar]

That sounds so familiar

I don't want to come across like it's all bad, because it's not, it's just that sometimes I feel like HE lets his emotions take over (like with our bad start yesterday - things were fine until that car decided to mess with us, and then things just went downhill.. what should have been little issues became big ones), and just can't control what he says or does... and unfortunately I end up being the target of a lot of it, even though it may have more to do with him being frustrated in general than just to do with me.. I don't know.

I think right now, I'm going to focus on me, and figuring out the whole bike transport situation better so that the kids and I can enjoy things on our own... and once I have that figured out (and it doesn't require two cars to get us all somewhere, and lots of struggle loading and unloading), wait until the weather is nicer, and try again. Or suggest he meet us at the park after work (it's on the way).

After reading your efforts, it sounds like you may need to back off trying to convince him about cycling too. Just enjoy it with your kids or by yourself. He needs space for himself to figure out what he wants. It does not need to escalate into something huge if your approach is casual and low-key --I just need my exercise and when you'll be back at a time you originally indicated.

Does he have a fitness activity that he engages in or would like to try? Encourage that instead. We cannot convince our loved ones that cycling is the activity for them, either right now or ever.

Try to see it the reverse situation...of enthusiastic men who are unable to get their wives on the bike. Everyone is free to find their own passion. Hope for this-- that he has a personal passion that he gets excited about, wants to explore/grow/become better, makes him feel better, is healthy even if outside of you and children.

I have a partner who loves cycling. We don't have a car and cycling is certainly part of our lifestyle since we've known each other many years ago. However if something should change later where one of us is unable/doesn't want to cycle, we then simply want the other person to look after their individual physical and mental health --take positive action long term, no matter what that person does, even if it's not cycling. So many positive options for him.