Yesterday, she told me that ever since Michael Jackson passed, she keeps seeing the music video for "You Are Not Alone"...and she thinks of me and cries every time she see's it. She's been telling her fiance that she's just having a female moment...and he doesn't question it. lol Other funny thing is...neither of us are really Michael Jackson fans. Anyway, I just watched the video on youtube as I'm not familiar with the song...
RED FLAG! RED FLAG! RED FLAG!

You need to get AWAY from her as fast as possible, try not to be the "one" she screws over her fiancee with. No matter what's going on with her feelings, she is UNAVAILABLE. You need to face that fact, and commit to not speaking with her at all forever if that's what it takes.

Her behavior is reprehensible and her fiancee would be alarmed if he knew this. That is the test of whether her behavior is acceptable. If she wouldn't tell him the truth about her emotional outbursts, she is hiding things from him, and that is no way to begin a marriage. That means she is not committed--but that doesn't matter to YOU.

Put yourself in his shoes. Do not talk to her again, no matter how tempting and soothing it is to your feelings.

Also in the BTDT camp,

Karen