Quote Originally Posted by indigoiis View Post
I know you say it's a long story, but why exactly did you break up? What were the circumstances surrounding that? I think it's VERY important to what you are about to do...

I am married to someone who waited me out through an extended breakup of my making - the reasons for the breakup were vague and "unclosed" and after two years neither one of us could stand it anymore and got back together. It was disruptive to several people. It was not pretty. But it was worth it. I thank my lucky stars every day that I went to meet up with him.

So yeah.
It can go either way... but think carefully about your motivation. What do you want? What happened during the breakup? What do you think she wants? If she wants something you don't, then I would close that door hard.
I'd rather not say why I ended our relationship. I mean...she doesn't even know the real reason yet...and it's something I'm pretty ashamed of. If you're still curious, I'm more likely to spill the beans after whatever should happen later today.

What do I want? In my dream scenario...we'd get back together, I'd work to redeem myself in her eyes and in the eyes of her family and friends...and we'd live out our lives together.

What will most likely happen? I have no clue...but probably one of these...
1) I bare my soul...she bares hers...and she goes on with her life as planned without me as any part of her life whatsoever.
2) I bare my soul...she doesn't have anything to bare, and the voicemail was a momentary nothing...she internally thinks I'm pathetic...and she goes on her way.
3) I play it close to the vest...wish her the best...chit chat, maybe catch-up. I try to bury everything inside me for however long. And whatever she had for me left in her dies or was never really there to begin with. And she goes on her way.

What do I think she wants? I have ZERO clue. Why finally return one of my correspondences? Why finally the desire to lend clarity to our separation? What was the source of the emotion and tears? I don't know. Maybe nothing. Probably nothing. But maybe something...?

Hope is a terrible thing...