Quote Originally Posted by celerystalksme View Post
oh yeah...i definitely wanted to hear 'yeah, let her know' type of response. not that it's the correct answer...and not that i would be 100% of my course of action if i got that sort of feedback.
Your feelings are perfectly normal and understandable. I don't doubt you are a wonderful guy, but you probably don't have the power to destroy this woman's life and upcoming nuptials. Women no longer live that way (if they ever did).

If her commitment to her intended is so fragile that a chat with a former lover could disrupt the wedding plans, then that marriage shouldn't take place.

Just give the woman a call if you want, see where it leads, and don't make it into a Great Big Drama. Expressing and exploring the emotions involved will probably do both of you a world of good.

Pam