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[maillotpois]

I wouldn't make plans to ride solo with any guy if I had a serious boyfriend (in my case, I have a serious husband!). So regardless of whether he's hitting on you or not, I'd tell him you'd love to do a group ride with him, but not alone. If he laughs and says it's "just a ride" and he's not interested beyond that, I'd still stick to my guns and say I don't ride alone with guys unless they're "my guy". Same reason I wouldn't do just about anything alone with another guy ... go to lunch, etc.

I would ride and have ridden many times with men who are not my husband. Some of them he knows (pepole in our riding circle), some he doesn't (Glenn and Twain, etc.). Assuming it's just a bike ride (and I know RR doesn't know what his assumptions are which is why she started this thread), it's just a bike ride. I also will go and have gone to lunch, etc., with other men, as well. Lots of this is business related, but some is social (my old friend from middle school who works across the street from me now comes to mind - I had a HUGE crush on him in middle school, but we're both happily married now and he's just fun to hang out and have lunch with sometimes).

And the shoe fits on the other foot - my husband rides with other women without me, and plays tennis with women all the time. He also has business lunches, dinners, etc., with other women.

I guess I just don't see why it's an issue.

[pinkbikes]

I would ride and have ridden many times with men who are not my husband. Some of them he knows (pepole in our riding circle), some he doesn't (Glenn and Twain, etc.). Assuming it's just a bike ride (and I know RR doesn't know what his assumptions are which is why she started this thread), it's just a bike ride. I also will go and have gone to lunch, etc., with other men, as well. Lots of this is business related, but some is social (my old friend from middle school who works across the street from me now comes to mind - I had a HUGE crush on him in middle school, but we're both happily married now and he's just fun to hang out and have lunch with sometimes).

And the shoe fits on the other foot - my husband rides with other women without me, and plays tennis with women all the time. He also has business lunches, dinners, etc., with other women.

I guess I just don't see why it's an issue.

Yep - I think I'm here too. When DH and I started going out our first date was a bike ride! We spent a lot of years riding together with various other friends (all male) and much of the time I struggled with his riding style and my ability (or lack thereof) to hang onto his wheel.

Over the years we've been on bikes, off bikes, on bikes again and since we have had the DD it is hard to manage to get out to ride at the same time - we really hardly ever ride together (as a regular thing) since one of us is at home with the DD.

I also work with a bunch of cycle mad boys. So I have a large collection of boys I ride with. He has a collection of boys he rides with. Sometimes he send me out with his collection of boys if he is not feeling up to it.

He also collects girls. Always has, always will. He has a collection of girls at work and a collection of girls at the gym (I don't do the gym). We both went shopping to help the girls from the gym buy bikes. Sometimes they ride with him. And since they are so flipping slow, we take them riding together and DD can even keep up!

I ride with one or more of my bunch of boys all the time. They are all younger than me. And they are all goofballs. It's fun.

RR, maybe he just wants to enjoy some cruisy riding with a goofball? And that's all good! The question is probably whether you enjoy riding with him and how secure your BF is about that?

[withm]

Some times a bike ride is just a bike ride. No ulterior motive. It's not like he's a total stranger. If you are compatible riders, I'd give it a shot.

[Cataboo]

My bf would probably be happy if I rode with another guy & someone else had to deal with me being slow up hills, being grumpy when the bike doesn't shift right, or bonking and needing cliff shot blocks.

That being said, I ride without him, and he typically doesn't bother to ride without me, although complaining about the inconveniences of waiting for me...


Although, lately I'm keeping up with him enough that he's the one ending up with leg cramps or exhausted.