Quote Originally Posted by indysteel View Post
That said, I've read a number of things about the topic which suggest that while a save-the-date card is not the same as a formal invitation, you should not "uninvite" someone who received a save-the-date care by simply not sending them an invitation. That's in horribly bad form.
Makes me wonder if many guys even knew/care about this etiquette point. Just an observation.

I had no idea about this practice of save-the-date practice but my comment reflects that most of my friends are already married, single or divorced..for a long time. I don't quite understand the value of it especially if it should lead to uninviting an informed guest. All I remember were close friends and family members who had to make their "difficult" but cost-saving decisions at the beginning of wedding plan, to either invite a guest just to the church service or an invitation to both the church service and wedding banquent afterwards. At the time of decision-making by the wedding couple, it can be difficult...but cuts down alot of this potential confusion for all guests.

I must come from the wrong social circles ...most brides I've known never took the extra time to recommend hotels if coming from out of town. Unless there's a special hotel deal??