Are you as appalled as I am?

[salsabike]

I think we need to be careful about laying heavy judgements on things. Its so easy to go from being concerned and critical of poor financial decisions, and the overall marketing mentality to buy and consume ( which imsho is justified) to making broad brush judgments that may or may not be accurate or appropriate...

GLC1968's story about getting hassled for her big diamond is a classic. My SIL has a HUGE diamond that she inherited, and frankly it's no one's business but her's how she got it or how much it cost. Who are we to judge if someone CAN afford a big wedding or a fancy car and makes a sound financial choice that is what they want to do? It's no different that someone else judging us becuase we choose to spend our hard earned cash on nice bikes ( and quite a few of us have very nice bikes) instead of jewelry, a nice car or a big TV. Just because someone spends $$ on something that doesn't meet our own personal value system doesn't make it bad, it just means it's something we wouldn't choose to do.

I.

Yup.

[Pax]

After 19 years with my beloved we're not even allowed to marry...what others do to celebrate theirs is just white noise to us.

[Blueberry]

After 19 years with my beloved we're not even allowed to marry...what others do to celebrate theirs is just white noise to us.

Good perspective

And here's hoping that's not the case for much longer

[Flur]

After 19 years with my beloved we're not even allowed to marry...what others do to celebrate theirs is just white noise to us.

EVERYONE should be allowed to marry. This is one of the issues that really gets me. I know that it's political and that not everyone feels like I do, but this REALLY gets me mad.

I could go on and on... but I won't. Mouth shut now.

[Xrayted]

After 19 years with my beloved we're not even allowed to marry...what others do to celebrate theirs is just white noise to us.

Amen! Now there is something to be appalled over. In the land of the free, we still have civil rights violations and hateful discrimination. You are my personal hero, Pax. Thank you for... well, just thank you. *hugs*

[Irulan]

It is a bummer when big things with personal importance don’t work out the way one wants them too.
Resentment and anger are poison. The best way to get out of resentment is to practice an attitude of gratitude for what you DO have.

[snapdragen]

I think we need to be careful about laying heavy judgements on things. Its so easy to go from being concerned and critical of poor financial decisions, and the overall marketing mentality to buy and consume ( which imsho is justified) to making broad brush judgments that may or may not be accurate or appropriate...

GLC1968's story about getting hassled for her big diamond is a classic. My SIL has a HUGE diamond that she inherited, and frankly it's no one's business but her's how she got it or how much it cost. Who are we to judge if someone CAN afford a big wedding or a fancy car and makes a sound financial choice that is what they want to do? It's no different that someone else judging us becuase we choose to spend our hard earned cash on nice bikes ( and quite a few of us have very nice bikes) instead of jewelry, a nice car or a big TV. Just because someone spends $$ on something that doesn't meet our own personal value system doesn't make it bad, it just means it's something we wouldn't choose to do.

I.

Amen

[Xrayted]

It is a bummer when big things with personal importance don’t work out the way one wants them too.
Resentment and anger are poison. The best way to get out of resentment is to practice an attitude of gratitude for what you DO have.

That's true. So I guess I am grateful that I can never get divorced.

[crazycanuck]

*snort* X..you're too funny chickadee..

[withm]

If your "friends" have truly voiced criticism and disdain for the size of your diamond, be it small or large, what you really need are NEW friends.