I don't do the actual bill paying, but I know exactly what is going on. It's all electronically done, which I don't like, but I don't like anything about technology...
We always discuss major decisions and make them together. I give my opinion much more now, though. I just took my money out of the teacher's retirement fund and opened a 401K myself. This was a huge step for me and I hated doing every minute of it. The reason I took it out instead of leaving it there for 10 more years was that in MA if you get state retirement, you don't get your SS benefits (you don't get SS taken out of your check) or your spouse's since the retirement is so high compared to other states. Since I worked for 14 years in another state and my husband's SS benefits would be about 3K a month, I decided I really would want and need that money in addition to other stuff we have. But, as I said, the whole process got on my nerves.
I don't know why I hate dealing with money, my mom always did the bills in my family. I just like having it...