Bridezilla!

[bmccasland]

OK, 3 words...

Professional

Wedding

Planner

If Bride wants a big to-do, then have her hire a professional wedding planner - who will happily advise on things, coordinate deliverys, deal with the caterers, etc - cause she's being paid.

I went to a high-budget wedding and reception once (had a head-liner play the reception!*), and was amazed that they were too cheap to hire a wedding planner. I worked with the bride and several of us kept telling her, "hire a wedding planner." Then after the wedding when she was griping about the flow of things, we got to tell her "I told you so, you should have hired a wedding planner." Come on, if you're paying $10K for the band, you can spring for a planner!




*Clarence Gatemouth Brown, if you were curious

[lph]

this thread inspired me to go check on one of the most amusing sites out there:

http://www.etiquettehell.com/content...idezilla.shtml

[GLC1968]

LPH - I actually had a story published on that site! (Not from my wedding...but one of an 'ex' friend of mine).

Fujichants - Seriously...you need to have a talk with this girl. I had a 'big budget' wedding and I was not a bridezilla. It's not a requirement of the job! I would sit her down - not at a wedding planning event - and tell her what she sounds like. Don't say 'you are this'...phrase it as 'you sound like this and I'm sure that's not who you want to be, right?'. Be specific and let her be the judge of her own behavior. Yes, there can be a lot of pressure on the bride when it comes to the wedding planning, but 9 times out of 10, she's putting it on herself. The bride sets the tone of the wedding. It'll never be 'perfect' if she's wound up in knots. Besides, at the end of the day, no matter if the cake is ugly, the photographer forgets half the important photos, the groom flubs the vows, the sound system sucks or the father of the groom is a no show, she'll be married to the man of her dreams, right? Maybe she needs a little reminding of that...

(and yes, all those things happened on our day and I still treasure the memory and never once stressed out!)

[withm]

Just

Say

NO.


(And for my own edification, what's a MOH?)

[Blueberry]

(And for my own edification, what's a MOH?)

Maid of honor.

Seriously - sounds like this girl is out of control. I agree that a gentle smack upside the head is warranted. And with the approach of "you sound like...." not "you said...". Be as non-confrontational as possible, but expect her to blow. You may not be able to get through to her at this point.

CA

[Irulan]

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