Unfortunately I do not have a bike monk, I wish I did!!! My LBS's have not been able to help me before.
I have decided that I will NOT give up and spend the weekend trying to make it work.
It feels comfortable till I go more than 8 miles or so. Everyone i have talked to says to be patient and keep changing things (one at a time though). It will be worth the time to feel comfortable . The bottom line is.... I will not give up!