Hubby is mad that I won't ride......

[SadieKate]

GeorigaGirl (please note the spelling intentional or not) said:

Take it easy on him girls he's sensitive...

Thanks for all the advice and I will take it to heart and hopefully I'll be able to come back and tell you all about my great rides!!

At this point many, many people had given her some great pointers on finding a new saddle and some encouragement, support and ways to help hubby understand.

Then we progressed to discussions of their relationship rather just tools for communication. She not only did not ask for relationship counseling but her participation in the thread appears to have ground to a halt, even though she was on the forum early this morning.

GeorgiaGirl - does he let you have friends? Maybe you could take a friend to the LBS with you when you go. Being completely dependent on your DH for every aspect is perhaps not the best way to proceed, especially considering the differences in anatomy, interest, skill level, and motivation.

I've worked with far too many women in unbalanced domestic power situations. Please be aware that this much control over one person by the other member in the relationship is detrimental to both of you. Set out on your own two feet in regards to YOUR bicycle and YOUR riding. It will be good for you both.

Next we have someone declaring that he did call her a b**** not to mention the completely weird comment about her lack of finding a saddle being indicative of her true desire to cycle.

So many members grabbed on and were off and running presuming the worst without feedback or personal knowledge of GeorigaGirl herself.

sounds like you need to do two things:

1) tell your husband you don't like being called a b**** just because you don't want to ride
2) tell him to appreciate his wife for who she is... and not who he wants her to be

... and as for the saddle, honestly... if you were really into cycling (and that's perfectly okay that you're not!), you would have found one already that worked. I somehow think the saddle is not the real issue here

As far as hubby, he clearly identified that he was using her member log-in. He didn't hide anything about his identity. And we've let other men do that without comment.

How about we address her questions and not assume the worst of him?

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

How about we address her questions and not assume the worst of him?

I think her saddle problem has been thoroughly addressed. As to the rest, we've heard more than enough already.

[Trek420]

This gal's been a member of our delightful, supportive, warm, wacky, wise, witty, wonderful "we put the fun in dysfunctional" community since '04.

http://forums.teamestrogen.com/showthread.php?t=1712

And to this date nobody even replied to her first post. 1,046 people viewed (probably in the last two days) but nobody welcomed her or offered cycling community. I'm not self promoting but I believe I'm the one person who suggested she organize a ride through this board.

How many of us remember our first posts here? I sure do I was obviously new to this board but to discussion groups as well. I changed the subject hijacked a thread oh the horror got gently slapped for that "stick to the subject or start your own ^@*& thread" by senior members.

I'm still here obviously. Maybe I'm thicker skinned than most. Fact is we run people off.

How many of us remember our first group ride? The person who welcomed you, the rider who made sure you are ok. That's the club you stay with.

I think we can all vow and that's self included to treat each other better. Especially be kinder still to new members.

[sgtiger]

GeorigaGirl94 + Mr. GG,

I apologize if I came to the wrong conclusion. I'll go kick myself now.

~Sg

[crazycanuck]

Can we lock this thread?

[Trek420]

We had just started getting to apologies, but have stalled before getting to talking about food or chocolate

Options include:
let it just kinda fade out to the bottom of the pile.
anyone can ask an admin to lock*
the thread originator can up and delete the whole shebang.
set to your "ignore thread" list.

*by clicking on the white triangle on any post other than your own.

[Savannahgurl]

You self righteous women have proven my point. I watched this thread go from an innocent question with an attempt at humor from Georgiagirl evolve into a lynching of her husband (A soldier fighting for YOUR country). I don't get it.

You ladies make me sick.