Meant no disrespect......

[silver]

If you knew me, which you don't......you would know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I sincerely meant no disrespect....

And that my feelings are hurt greatly that one might think that I did.

I was up in the middle of the night and just taking a moment to appreciate my cycling buddy. Something I don't do enough of.

[Veronica]

Goodness gracious! what is wrong with people?! Of course your post was a joke, and there is no need to apologize.

V.

[makbike]

Silver, no need to apologize. I think it is absolutely wonderful that Mr. Silver encourages you to ride and that you both enjoy your time on your bikes.

[Mr. SR500]

You guys are the reason I started posting. Mrs. is talking classes until April and has basically no online time, so I keep taps of what is happening. I appreciate both of you.

[Crankin]

Ah, I didn't mean your post, Silver. I meant the one that replied to yours...
This is what happens when you get up too early and write stuff!

[silver]

Ah, I didn't mean your post, Silver. I meant the one that replied to yours...
This is what happens when you get up too early and write stuff!

Robyn, I know you didn't mean my post. But thanks for saying so.

[Mr. Bloom]

There are offensive things that are said offensively

and

There are unoffensive things that are heard offensively.

Is the sayer responsible for the receiver's hearing? Sometimes, but usually not.

Silver is a non-confrontational person. She would never intentionally upset anyone. So, she removed a thread based on the perception of a single person who has chosen to process anything related to me as being offensive.

Personally, I think it's time for the person that hurt Silver's feelings to apologize directly to her. I'd appreciate someone passing that message on to her since she's made it clear that she ignores me simply because I'm a man. If she wants to ignore me, then encourage her to ignore Silver as well because we're a package deal...and we're here to stay.

In life, people either like me or they don't, and I accept that. But NO ONE DISLIKES SILVER and she didn't deserve that attack.

[Crankin]

Well said. To ignore or disrespect anyone because of his/her gender is not nice. I feel the same way about my husband; we are a package deal. I guess that's why I had a strong reaction to the comment.

[RoadRaven]

Well - I looked, and couldn't find whatever the post/thread was this whole thread is referring to... but for what its worth Silver you have never posted anything I have ever found offensive
Thought provoking - yes
Able to be construed as contraversial - I guess so
Inspirational - definately

Offensive? - zip, nyada, never...

[Zen]

To ignore or disrespect anyone because of his/her gender is not nice.

I have no idea what transpired here but I will say that there are many here who put men on their ignore list to keep with the intent of this being a women's forum.
There are others who have ignore lists for whoknowswhat reason but the point being that for whatever reason, "ignore" is an option open to everyone.

Disrespect is entirely different.

[OakLeaf]

I don't know the history here, either, but having been on the sidelines in several other struggles where a women-only space (d)evolved into something less special, I can see why there would be a lot of continuing hard feelings. So while I would hope those on the losing end would be able to find somewhere else and not hold onto their grudges here, I would be sad to lose them, and I would also hope the "winners" would show discretion, too. And I'm sure, Silver, that you meant no disrespect.

For the record, my male DH is an essential part of my life, too, but I'm not entirely comfortable with the fact that he does lurk (not post) in at least one women-only forum I'm on. And he absolutely is not invited to any f2f women's space that I participate in, and he is entirely comfortable with that.

[rocknrollgirl]

I did see the thread, and when I read the comment in question I went whoa...that is gonna cause some "discussion".

Silver, I did not take your thread as offensive, I thought it was funny and a poke at Mr. Siver.

If I were you, I too, would have been offended.


Ruth

[Cindyloo]

I didn't see the original post but I can't imagine Silver posting anything even close to offensive. I enjoy Mr Silver's posts and find it quite refreshing that a man can be so respectful (and witty) in a predominantly womens' forum. There are probably many men that lurk and do not post here and as long as they play nice everything goes smoothly. I would suggest that whoever finds Mr. Silver's presence here inappropriate also put Silver on ignore because she has every right to talk about him as do all of us regarding our significant other.

[makbike]

Well said Cindyloo!

[Brandi]

I like the Silver's. They have both been very supportive and insightful. And I would not block them at all. And Mr Silver has always followed the rules.