Meant no disrespect......

[Crankin]

Ah, I didn't mean your post, Silver. I meant the one that replied to yours...
This is what happens when you get up too early and write stuff!

[silver]

Ah, I didn't mean your post, Silver. I meant the one that replied to yours...
This is what happens when you get up too early and write stuff!

Robyn, I know you didn't mean my post. But thanks for saying so.

[Mr. Bloom]

There are offensive things that are said offensively

and

There are unoffensive things that are heard offensively.

Is the sayer responsible for the receiver's hearing? Sometimes, but usually not.

Silver is a non-confrontational person. She would never intentionally upset anyone. So, she removed a thread based on the perception of a single person who has chosen to process anything related to me as being offensive.

Personally, I think it's time for the person that hurt Silver's feelings to apologize directly to her. I'd appreciate someone passing that message on to her since she's made it clear that she ignores me simply because I'm a man. If she wants to ignore me, then encourage her to ignore Silver as well because we're a package deal...and we're here to stay.

In life, people either like me or they don't, and I accept that. But NO ONE DISLIKES SILVER and she didn't deserve that attack.

[Crankin]

Well said. To ignore or disrespect anyone because of his/her gender is not nice. I feel the same way about my husband; we are a package deal. I guess that's why I had a strong reaction to the comment.

[RoadRaven]

Well - I looked, and couldn't find whatever the post/thread was this whole thread is referring to... but for what its worth Silver you have never posted anything I have ever found offensive
Thought provoking - yes
Able to be construed as contraversial - I guess so
Inspirational - definately

Offensive? - zip, nyada, never...

[Zen]

To ignore or disrespect anyone because of his/her gender is not nice.

I have no idea what transpired here but I will say that there are many here who put men on their ignore list to keep with the intent of this being a women's forum.
There are others who have ignore lists for whoknowswhat reason but the point being that for whatever reason, "ignore" is an option open to everyone.

Disrespect is entirely different.

[OakLeaf]

I don't know the history here, either, but having been on the sidelines in several other struggles where a women-only space (d)evolved into something less special, I can see why there would be a lot of continuing hard feelings. So while I would hope those on the losing end would be able to find somewhere else and not hold onto their grudges here, I would be sad to lose them, and I would also hope the "winners" would show discretion, too. And I'm sure, Silver, that you meant no disrespect.

For the record, my male DH is an essential part of my life, too, but I'm not entirely comfortable with the fact that he does lurk (not post) in at least one women-only forum I'm on. And he absolutely is not invited to any f2f women's space that I participate in, and he is entirely comfortable with that.

[rocknrollgirl]

I did see the thread, and when I read the comment in question I went whoa...that is gonna cause some "discussion".

Silver, I did not take your thread as offensive, I thought it was funny and a poke at Mr. Siver.

If I were you, I too, would have been offended.


Ruth