Sending flowers either to the coworker's home or to the funeral home would be appropriate. Where I work, it's a small group (20 people) and we keep things fairly personal, so we've sent flowers or a plant and also a card (passed around the office and signed) to the coworker's home. If a funeral or memorial will be held out of town, though, it might be more appropriate to send the flowers and card to the funeral location (delivery arrangements are usually easier - you can arrange delivery in time for the service when someone is sure to be there).
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03-20-2007, 08:03 PM #1
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03-21-2007, 02:57 AM #2
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I agree that sending to the funeral is best. If you send something to the home, I encourage it to be a living plant, not cut flowers.
I would avoid anything presented in the work environment because he may still be a little shaky emotionally...and men don't like to cry at work - regardless of how justified it may be.If you don't grow where you're planted, you'll never BLOOM - Will Rogers
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03-21-2007, 04:41 AM #3
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If you end up sending flowers, send them to the funeral home.
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03-21-2007, 05:06 AM #4
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Ditto on the funeral home. If the family has a preference for something different, it will be stated in the obit.
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03-21-2007, 08:12 AM #5
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Hi Girls,
Allowing for the fact I'm from the UK and so things may be different between us
Here, we would send flowers to the co-worker - we'd be sending our condolences to him for the loss of his Mother, we don't know the rest of his family. Wouldn't even ask about the charity bit - all we're doing is saying 'Hey there friend, we're thinking of you as you go through this rough time'
Hope this doesn't add to your dilema
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03-21-2007, 08:25 AM #6
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Gilly, do you never see obits there that state "in lieu of flowers, please send donations to XXXXXX"?
There are lots of reasons why the family or the person may not want flowers.Frends know gud humors when dey is hear it. ~ Da Crockydiles of ZZE.
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03-21-2007, 08:36 AM #7
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Absolutely, yes. But the obit isn't usually in the paper, say the day after a death (here anyway).
Originally Posted by SadieKate
I wasn't viewing this as 'should you send flowers to a collegues parents funeral' I'm reading this; our colleague has just lost his parent, lets just let him know we're thinking of him. And here, no, a company wouldn't send flowers or donate to a charity for a person not actually employed by the company... if you see what I mean :-)
My Husband lost his Father in November, his colleagues from the same department sent him some flowers and a card - he much appreciated the thought. But it would have seemed 'odd' if his company/department had sent a donation to the chosen charity.
I did say we're maybe different over here
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