Who told there DH, about new bike?

[East Hill]

Sometimes the dread in telling is worse that the actual telling.

I can see why you would have problems bringing up this bike with your husband having so many problems at the moment.

It's a tough situation for the both of you. It does sound as if he could use some grief counseling, but everyone has their own way of dealing with grief.

I know my husband would not want me to be unhappy because of a grief on his part, but my husband is very, very understanding.

At least you no longer have a secret, and that's good.

Good luck to both of you.

East Hill

[mimitabby]

(((collective sigh of relief.)))

"You did what!!! Please tell me your going to be happy with this bike.Come get your kids cause they are driving me nuts."
He sounds like a pretty nice guy! He's hoping you are not going to buy another bike in February!!
cool

[Aint Doody]

East Hill is right. The dreading is the worst. Seems like I heard it's easier to say I'm sorry than to ask permission--or something like that....

Glad it worked out for you like it did for me. My DH is OK w/my new bike now, too. He doesn't get it, but I'm used to that...

[Offthegrid]

Wow! You bought Xrayted's bike!

[logdiva32]

Thanks all is good. Yellow I hope you can get your bike soon.. I know I have been walking in the store for maybe 4 months looking at this bike before I just grabbed it. I know riding it will be like, well guess I can't say here...

[LadyinWhite]

I talked with my DH about this whole thread before coming here to post. We've been married 22 years. I asked him how he'd feel if I did that. He said it's kind of a toss up between trusting my judgement enough to know that if I ever went out and dropped 2k on anything, it would be because somehow somewhere I had the $$ and trusting me enough to know that I would never do that because he'd want to be part of the process of buying it with me (whatever IT was). He also said he'd hope that I'd trust HIM enough to have a conversation about it and we'd work out together if it was a want or a need.

He's of the mind that if you have a bike that works perfectly fine, why on earth would you need another one. I told him he's entitled to believe that but he shouldn't impose that view on everyone else He said "Oh so now it starts!" LOL I'm already thinking.......hmmmm

Interestingly, later that night.. he said something saucy to me and I said "Thats it, tomorrow I'm going out and buying a bike" He just laughed.. "You don't have an office to stash it in!"

The thing is, everyone's relationship with their SO is personal and unique to them. As long as it worked out in the end, it's all good!!

Especially since she gets to keep the bike!!!

[East Hill]

You know, that is so true. I could probably go out and buy a car without telling my husband because he would trust my judgement.

Yesterday I gave him $350 to spend as he saw fit. I don't care what he spends it on. We don't drink, smoke, or gamble (ok, we play the lottery once a week for a dollar). If he wants to buy his version of a toy, it's all good.

He's a great man .

East Hill

[logdiva32]

Through casual conversation with DH, he slipped and told me that he purchased an older acura legend while I was gone, but it clunked out so he turned it around and got his money back. DH has bad luck with cars. Odd thing is I did not get angry, he says he told me this while I was gone. Funny what you really pay attemtion to while your are in a war zone. Point is, He is not going to leave me over a bike, I am not going to leave him over a car. But sometimes fear hurts more than the actual pain... The end..