Who told there DH, about new bike?

[caligurl]

wow! you're brave! i'd never make a major purchase like that without first talking it over with hubby! he's always been right there with my on all four of my bike purchases! (and i mean right there reseaching with and for me and right there ordering and right there at pick up!)

[logdiva32]

No he has little interest. If I had asked before I bought it. It would have either been, Do you really, really want it? Do you really, really have to have it?
How much does it cost? What will you give up for it? Then either no, maybe next year, or what the hell, go ahead..
Biking is just not his thing.
not that 2 wrongs make it right, but he bought his motorcycle without mentioning it to me until I got home several months later. But I wasn't upset. Just the nature of our relationship I guess. Ten years together a lot of ups and downs. But, "that's my boy"
tried him 3 times at work today, but he had meetings. Will have to be tonight then.

[Aint Doody]

Logdiva, don't beat yourself up. You know your financial situation. I had some here telling me I should have felt bad about the mt. bike I just got. It wasn't the money, it wasn't the room, it was just that he has to try to rain on my parades from time to time. He doesn't ride bicycles and doesn't want to and doesn't understand why it's so much fun for me. But--that's the way his father does his mother. I told him; took my punishment of "the look" and "how many bicycles do you need??? speech" and went on my merry way.

But it does sound like your fellow needs some help. He may even need to go on antidepressants for a while. Can you convince him to just go in for a check-up?

[logdiva32]

Yes, I am leaving work. Headed for the gym. And in prayer just decided to tell him, keep the bike, apologize for not calling him and let it go. What ever he says, he just says. Wish I could get him to tell somebody if he is really ok or not. He tells his mom and dad he is ok. But I don't think he is. They have the church and the rest of our families nearby. We are stuck here in WA......

But hey anyway here is my bike. Not a car note, but it is mine and I am ready to ride.

[Bikingmomof3]

Congratulations! Your bike is beautiful. Enjoy!!

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

It's a BEAUTY. Ride it in good health!
Perhaps it will do your husband's heart good to see how happy you are- especially if you let him know how much his hard work is appreciated in allowing you both to have a roof over your heads and a good life together. We all should regularly let our mates know how much they are loved and appreciated and admired. Our loved ones are more important than any objects we might ever own.

[yellow]

Pretty!

Hubby and I have been "discussing" my next bike for about a year now.

Him : You're going to get Campy, aren't you?

Me: I dunno. Prolly.

Him: You're not going to get a pink bike are you?

Me: I dunno. Prolly not.

Him: Are you going to get a compact double or a triple?

Me: I dunno.

All translated to mean that he's been thinking about my next bike more than I have (or at least more about the detail). I'd never buy one without him first blessing the color, at least. He's been pushing me to get a new bike and I'm almost there...maybe by summer.

That being said, he makes big (not huge, just "big") purchases all the time without consulting me (on the order of your bike). But it (usually) comes out of his account. If it's something that we will both use, or something special (like a celebratory purchase of some kind), then I'll usually contribute. I figure there are many other more dangerous habits than fishing that he could be spending his money on.

[mimitabby]

Pretty!

Hubby and I have been "discussing" my next bike for about a year now.

Him : You're going to get Campy, aren't you?

Me: I dunno. Prolly.

Him: You're not going to get a pink bike are you?

Me: I dunno. Prolly not.

Him: Are you going to get a compact double or a triple?

Me: I dunno.

ummm, i see an awesome bike in YOUR future!

[KSH]

What a pretty bike!

Looks like it was worth it.

Only get in trouble... when it's worth it... eh?

[logdiva32]

"You did what!!! Please tell me your going to be happy with this bike.Come get your kids cause they are driving me nuts."

So that is it. I am sure I will here some more later but I can handle that. He yells at me all the time. But he really likes me to be happy. Together since we were 24. Just kids really....

Can't wait on my short/raised stem, I think my back under my shoulder blades hurts from the position.

Anyway it is a Novara Carema Pro 2006, from REI, as you can see. Shimano 105's all the way around. Mavic wheels.. Ritchey comp stem/seat post..

I added the dual clipless/platform pedals, from performance bike. Do not know how to use the clipless. Did not want to embarass myself in the LBS. Will practice at 5:30 am tomorrow in spin class. Laugh at me now, go ahead get it out. LOL

Thanks all. Ride safe.

[East Hill]

Sometimes the dread in telling is worse that the actual telling.

I can see why you would have problems bringing up this bike with your husband having so many problems at the moment.

It's a tough situation for the both of you. It does sound as if he could use some grief counseling, but everyone has their own way of dealing with grief.

I know my husband would not want me to be unhappy because of a grief on his part, but my husband is very, very understanding.

At least you no longer have a secret, and that's good.

Good luck to both of you.

East Hill

[mimitabby]

(((collective sigh of relief.)))

"You did what!!! Please tell me your going to be happy with this bike.Come get your kids cause they are driving me nuts."
He sounds like a pretty nice guy! He's hoping you are not going to buy another bike in February!!
cool

[Aint Doody]

East Hill is right. The dreading is the worst. Seems like I heard it's easier to say I'm sorry than to ask permission--or something like that....

Glad it worked out for you like it did for me. My DH is OK w/my new bike now, too. He doesn't get it, but I'm used to that...

[Offthegrid]

Wow! You bought Xrayted's bike!

[logdiva32]

Thanks all is good. Yellow I hope you can get your bike soon.. I know I have been walking in the store for maybe 4 months looking at this bike before I just grabbed it. I know riding it will be like, well guess I can't say here...