ahem...not wanting to take away from the other advice noted above...and wanting to assume that he has a head on his shoulders too, I'll be a bit more pragmatic:Originally Posted by Lisa S.H.
If the fear is something unreasonable on his part, remind him that you are an equal in the relationship and that you have the right to have something for you.
If the fear is space, offer to get rid of something else.
If the fear is financial, offer to cut back on something else.
If the fear is "how many bikes can one woman have", explain the yearning for and benefit of pursuing variety in cycling.
If the fear is more time riding, less with him...take him to lbs and get him fitted for one of his own.
I encourage couples to have a predetermined spending limit that requires consultation. If you want to buy something over say $400, then you will consult one another first. But if it costs $399, no consultation is necessary. This places value on the individual's rights while noting respect for the value of the partnership in managing budgetary issues.
If he's just a jerk, make note of your response on the DH? post
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01-20-2007, 02:21 AM #7
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