I'm on asthma meds daily. I don't love it, but I know I have to do it in order to be active. My doc recommends twice a day Advair doses, but I honestly only do it once (and I've told her this). When I notice that I'm feeling a bit tighter in the chest I will do it twice a day (most especially around higher allergy times).

Your DH is perhaps more considerate than mine. he doesn't want to hold himself back, so he doesn't. And he doesn't feel like he has to stay back with me. I will say that on long rides he will double back sometimes to come find me and make sure I'm OK, but if it's a supported ride, he just takes off at his own pace and drops me. It *really* used to bother me, and I'd get upset with him, but the I just realized that he has to do his own thing, and since his goals are to get faster and mine are to just do it- I had to let it (and him) go off and do his thing.

You'll find your balance, don't worry.

And after 16 years of marriage- I KNOW that a tandem would come with divorce papers... no doubt about it!!