Thank you all for your thoughtful responses.

DH and I have been together for over 25 years, I think we just might divorce if we tried a Tandem! LOL.

I am working with a doctor on the asthma. We are in the very early stages, and I will be honest, I don't have much faith in the medical field for helping with general wellness, but I am willing to follow through and try whatever. I wouldn't want to take medication every day, but I could see trying something if I knew was going to go on a harder ride.

I actually am trying to get the mental place that it seems Tri-Girl is at. I do think we can both be happy. I keep trying to encourage DH to go out with the club on his own and to have fun, but he holds back sometimes because he wants to do things with me. I don't want to hold him back or be a downer on his fun.

DH and I have done several centuries together, and we have had a great time doing that. I think we could still do that, and he could still ride with the club and get his hammering in. He looks so happy when he rides with the club.

Our Trek group is starting up again later this month. They have done a really good job of dividing the groups up by speed. I am thinking I will get in with them. You can move up or down in the groups as you feel like it. I usually ride with the group that averages 15-16 MPH, and that is pretty comfortable for me. I could do that while DH rides with the other club.

LPH: I appreciate you comment about comparing myself to the wrong people. I get into trouble doing this. When I compare myself to me, I am wildly happy with my progress and where I am. It's when I compare myself to others that I get down. I have to keep reminding myself of this.